October 13, 2016 at 10:24 pm

Most daughter-in-laws considered their mother-in-law as “monsters.” I am sure there a lot of stories will come out after reading this. It has been an old issue why mother-in-law became the talk of the town of women. It simply because they don’t jive each other in some situations especially in the kitchen department. 

October 13, 2016 at 10:36 pm

You are right, lots of stories and grievances will come out and to be very honest, I don’t think people should air their dirty laundry in public or write rude or personal things about family relationships online.

A general reason is I think that most mothers think no one can take as good care of their sons as they have been, forgetting that they have known their sons since birth while the wife might have known the guy for few months and probably only the good, charming side that he allowed to be seen:-)

October 13, 2016 at 10:47 pm

@dawnwriter You have a point here. I agree that mother had nurtured their son since birth and it is impossible to forget how she had sacrificed. The wife can still be friends with their mother-in-law. It takes time but there is always an open door that they can be in good terms.

October 13, 2016 at 11:43 pm

My mother in law very strict woman, but she take care of all my children. It take me one firm conversation with her and she know first day how to maintain relationship with me. I am satisfied with her sacrifice, she not well with her health in later years all thanks to her care for children and elderly. Life make her what she is, she was never happy in life, when young lots of bad things going on with her, now she see in me strength and power she had not in her young days. Of all her daughters in law she says I most beautiful and most strong in character. Her royalty came down from throne , never go back on it but never seek to claim it. It is how you put at first meeting that shall be in life. I earned grandmother for my babies and sacrificed woman for me, other daughters bad mother in law only.

October 14, 2016 at 1:50 am

I actually got along with my ex-mother-in-law. We used to do things together like going out to eat or shopping. We even share the same birthday. I know crazy right? Although, I am no longer married to her son we are still friends. I know even crazier.

October 14, 2016 at 5:44 am

@yourseldom Well, I think mother-in-law has some flaws. But still, they have a golden heart. Perhaps some of them wanted to emphasize she still exists in the family and worries that her role will be forgotten. I am sure they wanted to be acknowledged for taking good care of her family and still have its role to her grandchildren.

@evilelf I guess both of you had accepted the differences and made stronger with the similarities. It is nice that you had continued to be friends despite the separation. You had extended your family circle to her. I think there is no reason to cut the ties if having a good relationship together.

October 14, 2016 at 2:40 pm

People find different kinds of people all over the world. As we are humans, people often think that when they get married that will automatically be loved and respected by the family that they are going to join in. But that is never the case, most women get there and that start having this mixed feelings about their mother’s in law which caused a rift between them. The mum of the boy will probably want things to be done a certain way and the wife also wants it done in another different way.  Hence that’s when you start hearing words such as monster inlaw

October 14, 2016 at 4:57 pm

@sauda It is inevitable that daughter-in-law and mother-in-law have the different dynamic. However, it cannot be categorized in general. The situation can overturn once the two souls known each other. I am sure time will test their way of knowing each other’s differences and compromise to get along well.

October 15, 2016 at 1:50 pm

@Shavkat, that is what I always hear from my elder sisters having their in laws they do not like.They always jive with them though wrong or not effective advise. That is what I am afraid of in marrying. I am thankful I am single hahahaha, no one to strike me with harsh words.But I know that if I only have married, my in laws won’t have problem on me. Once marry, we would also love our in laws to avoid troubles,LOL. there are strict in laws, sarcastic  in laws, desperate in laws, perfectionist and wanting attention.

October 15, 2016 at 3:11 pm

@lovern The way you had described, it is a typical monster-in-law. I do think that daughter-in-law’s group will join together and talk about their mother-in-law. In some way, I find it funny. There is always a clash between them.

October 16, 2016 at 8:11 pm

@evilelf that is such nice experience, I agree it is weird. but. Only because many people see their mothers in law or even parents in law like bad influences or some old folks being noisy and abrupt it does not need necessarily to mean that we all have to have such an experience with our beloved milf. It is very nice to hear and big refreshment that daughter in law goes shopping with her mother in law. If you are friends together even after the divorce I say it is genuine friendship.

@shavkat there are many different types of people. While one person can be genuine and kind, other is abrupt and rude. I take both instances are possible. I don’t see how a role of mother can be forgotten, but giving her role that is too big is never a good idea. Divorces happen all time because of this. It is not lack of love it is truly when man forgets he no longer a child.

October 16, 2016 at 8:49 pm

@yourseldom I think mother-in-laws should know when to back off in terms of giving some suggestions to their son and daughter-in-law or the other way around. She should know it is not her family to take full responsibility, but to guide them.