February 24, 2017 at 2:05 pm

What’s quarter-life crisis or for some mid-life crisis and how do you know if you have one?

February 24, 2017 at 4:13 pm

I am  not sure if they exist or not. Usually these crises happen because we start to feel old or we start to regret what we have not achieved. The remedy is to work out what you can do about it. Wrinkles will come, but many things in life can be changed. There is no law that says you cannot go backpacking at 50.

You know it is a crisis when you are not happy with your life as it is. I think that can come at any time and not just middle age.

I did however have a period in my life when I began to fall apart and question everything. I think that was just the result of being unhappily married as I feel so positive these days.

My ex husband on the other hand suddenly began to wear silly T shirts and go back to his student days in every way possible at 5o.  It looked really silly on an ageing man, but it filled in a kind of gap as he grew up and became sensible too fast.

As we get older we do sort of try to fill in the gaps of the past and do what we wish we had done earlier. The nice thing is that there is a season in life where if you played it well, you are game for new adventures, but have no regrets. I have travelled and done many things so can look forward with no regrets and enjoy the present day.

Remember each day is a part of your life and there is always something you can do to become who you wanted to be. There are people in their 80’s who have won college degrees and I know a blind lady who went on a long cycle trip on a bicycle.

February 25, 2017 at 5:51 am

Jacky, this is so sweet of you to tell me this. I really appreciate it. I guess, all I can say is that I’m not as happy as I was before and I wanted it all back. You are right, sometimes, regrets can get the better of us and we start doing things out of the ordinary. From what you mention though, I think I’m not having any type of crises whatsoever. I guess I’m just sad. And it makes life a bit difficult for me. I do have a lot of good friends and family and they’ve all been very supportive of me in every way possible. thank you so much for opening my eyes.