June 6, 2016 at 9:17 pm

I try not to hold grudges..  I would like to think that I’m a better person than that! 😉  However, there are times that I don’t understand why a person does what they do, but then I think that this is judging and that I shouldn’t judge people.  So, I try to stay away from them and when I see them I treat them as a stranger..I’m cordial, but that’s it, because I know they won’t be nice to me!!!  I accept their behavior and pray for them.

@lovern, oh my sorry about your “ex.”  Now not really, because it sounds like you found some one that is right for yo u now!! 😉

June 7, 2016 at 2:28 pm

@4cryingoutloud I guess it depends on what they did and how many times they did it without thinking about how do you feel after they do it. It seems that some people do not care about other people’s feelings anymore that is why we cannot blame someone to hold grudge. Holding grudge is heavy and we cannot prevent other people to feel it. I love your attitude against it or about it.

June 7, 2016 at 3:09 pm

I am a kind of person who could easily forgive someone who hurt or insulted me, someone who stepped on my foot. I am doing that by example for I don’t other to harbor grudge on me when I intruded their way of life. However, if how forgiving I am, I am also easy to recall wrong doings but I never retaliate or fight back. It is just a memory recall. In short, I forget them, but their mistakes, their insults, their misdeeds do still remain.

June 7, 2016 at 3:39 pm

@thinker, Having a grudge is normal but only case to case. Sometimes I keep my grudge and let time heal whatever it is. I only have a kind of grudge that lasted for years because that was so unforgettable.

June 12, 2016 at 6:25 am

I agree, it varies, it depends on the problems it created. It depends on the pain brought by the problems they created. It depends on how many people these people have hurt. On the other side, I still agree that it is no longer healthy to hold it for long as we are the one that is suffering from it. Forgive and forget is hard too, but it will happen in time. Time will heal the pain, let time works on it.