July 12, 2016 at 6:12 pm

@lovern I was a member in mykite but it wasn’t that fast. My nose bleeds in that site, but I will check it soon. Since I thought they don’t pay there. Actually, the incidence in out-of-school youth had increased tremendously especially when K12 was implemented.

@anitha Corporal punishment is so popular during the old days in my country. But now, it is not allowed. If done, you are violating children’s rights.

July 12, 2016 at 7:33 pm

Scientific research shows that of all the discipline options, punishment is the least effective in the long run. Punishment mainly teaches children to lie and hide their bad behaviours, which can be more dangerous for them. It also teaches them to follow rules only for the sake of avoiding punishment, and not because the rules make sense to them or because they want to be responsible citizens. Taken to the extreme as we have seen in many contexts, including some American schools, punishment can teach a child to resent the adult and it can result in bullying behaviour.

The preferred discipline method these days is to give small children natural consequences. This teaches them cause and effect, rather than to seek rewards or fear punishments. Children who learn natural consequences are less likely to lie when they’ve done something wrong because the consequences aren’t feared the way punishment is. Working with natural consequences also affords parents the opportunity to reason things out with the child, or to encourage the child to put himself in another person’s shoes. This fosters empathy, which goes a lot further than the threat of punishment when it comes to encouraging responsible and thoughtful behaviour.

July 12, 2016 at 10:09 pm

@ruby3881 I do agree with your well-detailed information about giving punishment. I had noticed that some children became secretive if done something wrong. They tend not to open up about their dilemmas in life. The only option is to share with their peers. However, immature advice can be given by their peers. It may result in bad outcome due to inexperience advice.

July 12, 2016 at 10:15 pm

Exactly @shavkat! I much prefer my kids knowing they can always come to me with any problem, than to have them fear telling the truth and taking more risks in the process.