May 12, 2016 at 11:44 am

Don’t you think it’s weird that people asks for your advise or a piece of it but does something totally different?

Of course, they’re just asking your opinion about a situation and what would you do if you were in their shoes. But they will not take your word for it and they will do what they want and will eventually end up in the same loop all over again – and what do you know, they’ll come running back to you for another piece of advise..

Wow..

May 12, 2016 at 12:01 pm

This happens to me many times, from several people. I actually do not mind if they do not take my advice at all, as I always respect different people have different thoughts. But I just wonder if they do not like my advice, then why do they still keep coming back to me and ask for my advice, again and again. Well, I still give my advice, and it depends on them whether they want to take it or not.

Sometimes it just hurts a little bit, as they heard my advice but listened to someone else, and later they regret. This happened to the same person not just once, but several times. I do not blame her for not listening to me, but just think she should listen to herself, know what she really wants, but not just listen to everyone. If she found she has made a mistake and regret on the first time, she should learn the lesson, but she just keeps making some decisions and then regret again.

I guess there are just some people who are very difficult to make decision or make up their mind.

May 12, 2016 at 12:06 pm

@Lee Ka

exactly my point!

You know it’s difficult to change another person’s viewpoint but if they already have their minds set up why do they need to ask for verification from someone else who they won’t take seriously, right? Anyway,. it happens all the time. But that was a good point. I’m glad though that you don’t mind these people or friend of your who will keep coming back for more pieces of advise but will do just the opposite. haha. I guess, we all are like that in some way, anyway.

May 12, 2016 at 12:28 pm

I know some people just do not take others’ advice seriously, but some people just can’t make up their mind, I have no idea why. I think these people are really struggling to make decision, hence they would like to get advice from others, from almost everyone, even with different mindsets. I guess when gathering so many advices or information from many people, it even makes them more difficult to make up their mind. 🙂

I am a stubborn person, especially when I grow older. I know what I want, and just go for it. Sometimes I would seek advice from my husband, as he really knows me well.

May 13, 2016 at 4:04 am

This happens all the time and I am not sure why people keep asking for advice only to not do what you have suggested and then regret not having listened to you in the first place. I know people have to learn things for themselves and even though we may have been through the same thing they still keep refusing to see their mistakes. I guess it takes all kinds and there is nothing that we can do except keep trying to be their friend, hoping one day they will heed your advice.

May 13, 2016 at 4:34 am

@morgoodie It seems like many of us have these friends all around. 😀

Actually I do not want them to listen to my advice, but I do hope they can really find out what they want in their life, and hence they know what to do and not to be regret again later. I actually feel a bit sad for them to keep repeating the same mistake over and over again, but I just can’t help. I guess we can just be there with them and continue to support them, but they have to learn and make a change on their own.

July 1, 2016 at 7:28 am

There are some people like it. But then, we can give some advice but we can’t force them to do it. In some point, they are just asking for opinions After which, they will choose the best solution.

July 1, 2016 at 9:58 am

yes it happens to anyone and I would think to myself, why the ***** did they ask for my opinion in the first place then!

If you ask for someone’s opinion, you listen and judge later not immediately.

Don’t give negative response even though you may not agree with it.

Because once you hover a wet blanket over someone’s opinion, that person would not give you anymore  of his opinion.

Why ask when disagree?

Open up the ears and listen, talk later after ponder the answers

July 1, 2016 at 10:45 am

I used to volunteer to give advice without anyone asking me for it. Now that they have all grown up and have access to information I no longer do it.

July 6, 2016 at 5:35 pm

That’s okay by me when someone comes to me for advice i will always give it willingly but i don’t expect that person to do everything that i tell them because they have their own way of dealing with issues, so our part is to offer advice the other part is theirs for them to make the decision you cannot make a decision for anybody

July 6, 2016 at 5:41 pm

That should not bother you at all, because people will always want to have a second opinion and sometimes they would feel like somebody else’s advice is better than you, and even though they don’t take your advice but still come to you again and again you can be rest assured that they are learning a very important lesson from you or they are getting one or two things out of you that will help them later so keep giving that advice it costs nothing it just makes you a great person.