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 Anonymous Topics: 120 Replies: 853 Rank: Newbie | I am not so sure about this kind of relationship. One of my friend had broke up with her boyfriend. No one saw it is coming. They had been steady for more than 5 years. I am so wondering why it needs to come an end after being together in years. It seems like they are playing around and didn’t take consideration the years of being a couple.
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| Breaking up even after getting married is happening even after staying married for many years. But it is easier for those who have a long term relationship as there is nothing binding there specially if they do not have children. | |
| That is life. In fact, I have known a person who is my high school classmate of my wife and who is also my schoolmate, have broken up her relationship with his high school sweetheart after they had graduated from the high school. For all those who have known them as a sweet lovers during their high school, would never think that they would fall apart. The girl got married to a different guy. While the boy became a priest. | |
| It is difficult to judge these things – it might end up being a lot more complicated than you think. Some people stay in relationships simply because it is “convenient”, others might’ve been trying so hard to save it, and a good number stays simply because they are still very much in love! You might not know it but there might’ve been issues or problems going around that even their close friends were not aware of so they decided to end it. It is actually difficult to end a relationship especially if you have been in it for a long time. Age is a factor not to mention it is a little bit “scary” to start over. | |
| Anonymous Topics: 120 Replies: 853 Rank: Newbie | @bestwriter I agree. Married couple had this kind of situation. I just felt bad for their children. It must be a tragic moment to hear them say, “why’. I hope that these children will not put this against their parents. I had seen some youngsters became juvenile delinquent. @nakitakona13 We really can never tell the future. It is sad thing to waste the time and energy for having a long-time relationship. As you’ve said, it happens for a reason. |
| it is nice to be in a long term relationship. hopefully it will lead into marriage. | |
| @Shavkat we in India consider a long term relationship when we celebrate our 50th marriage anniversary which is a common celebration here 🙂 | |
| Anonymous Topics: 120 Replies: 853 Rank: Newbie | @suny That’s a golden anniversary in my country. It is also a proof of strong relationship. But I also think that some people who had been in 50 years of marriage; there are some isolated case they decided to separate from each other. |
| For decades, I have been saying that we tend to place too much emphasis on monogamy in casual relationships -especially when it comes to young people who are just learning what they want from a relationship. It seems as soon as a couple has one date, the whole world assumes they are a steady couple. That’s not healthy. A lot of people end up stuck in a relationship simply because everyone around them says it must be so. They may not be happy, but they stay with their partners because it’s expected. Eventually, a lot of these relationships will break up because the partners were never right for each other in the first place. Far better to play the field and not to get serious with anyone, until we are sure the relationship is something special that both partners are willing to work on. | |
| Some times it’s easier to split up then to solve/resolve any problems in a relationship. I can speak for experience as our first marriage, people were saying things about the other person that weren’t true. Luckily after 14 years, we got back together and found out that other people didn’t want us to be together. We’ve been remarried for over 7 years and NO ONE will break us up. There are young people that go from relationship to relationship, having children by multiple partners. What are those children feeling/ going through? | |
| Anonymous Topics: 120 Replies: 853 Rank: Newbie | @ruby3881 Some people are so idealistic in terms of having a relationship. You are right in pointing out the differences in young and adult generations. I had also fallen into such relationship and made me realized that I should not expect too much. It is not always a one-sided aspiration to stay in a relationship. Thus, it should be in two-way process. |
| @shavkat young or older, most people have never learned what it is they want in a relationship because they were paired up so quickly. And even for those who are a good match, it’s rare to see anyone teaching the couple how to work through their differences or communicate properly in order to avoid arguments. | |
| Arguments are common with couples. Breaking up every time there is a disagreement is just not using your noggin. Love is supposed to last in spite of differences. The thing I realize after over 30 years of marriage is that communication is key to success in marriage. Love is most important but respect is the icing on the cake. Honesty and transparency in any relationship is much better than keeping secrets and failing to understand another person’s point of view. You will have many differences but it’s all in the way you make things work out in spite of them. | |
| Anonymous Topics: 120 Replies: 853 Rank: Newbie | @lookat Open communication is an essential to make the relationship works. I do agree on this statement of yours. My former and I had this dilemma. It wasn’t me who had the root of cause. It was her who tend not to say anything about the problem she has with me. Eventually, we broke up because there is no point of continuing the relationship if she can’t open up. At the back of my mind, it is unfair since I was the only one loving and understanding her. Since then, I started to be cautious and learn to love myself again. |
| Anonymous Topics: 120 Replies: 853 Rank: Newbie | @ruby3881 It doesn’t choose of what age should learn how to love for real. It is a sad thing that some people loved somebody just because it was influenced by others opinion of being a perfect match. Argument is also a part of detesting the love, but then some cannot endure the situation and break-up will be the last resort. |
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