My dad never spank me, but my mom did beat us with something, and I don’t even remember what that was, but I remember it was not a cane, not a stick, as she didn’t really mean to hurt us or make us painful. But, the problem is I don’t even remember why she beat me. So, did spanking or beating really discipline the child? I really doubt so.

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Some sorts of discipline are needed to teach the children, and spanking is old! Though I don’t totally or completely think it is so bad if the spanking is not in a physical abuse form. A light tap on the bottom usually does it well enough to bring the child back from his tantrum.

Sent them to their room or corner should be sufficient enough for…[Read more]

@slayer08/

you are right!

When I was young, my bro and I were repeatedly spanked by my mom with one or 2 canes.

She bought the canes from the night market, tie them up together to make the cane thicker.

She caned us whenever we are picky on food, didn’t do homework, didn’t listen to her, etc.

She don’t use verbal advice because her mom never…[Read more]

@swalia/

wow, that was a good trick!

Using the person’s name in your first reply worked out well.

You know, my son isn’t clever at this type of trick.

When dad asked him whom he liked best, he said MOMMY, look at disappointed daddy face !

He put me in first place, I know that, he is much closer to me.

My teenager on the other hand is much…[Read more]

@swalia/

thanks for , your share.

Being the only child it is difficult to say who you are closer too.

Both parents are good to you, because you are the apple of the eye.

By means, you are right, saying papa and mama is the best answer.

They won’t feel unfair and judgmental.

Good answer my friend.

@morgoodie/
thanks for sharing with us.

I guessed that different teens in different part of the world behaves differently.

But you are right, feeing like an alien with parents is one reason.

That makes the parents feel distant with the teen.

Hence, it is up to parents to try to enhance the teen -parent bonding.

At least you had basement.…[Read more]

@kaka135/

thanks for your share. Yes we do have a spare key to her room. But we never use it because she does open the door when we knocked it louder.

She can’t hear with the ear plug in her ears.

Otherwise, she would be sleeping but awakens easily with the slightest knock.

If I am not wrong , she learned to lock herself in the room when…[Read more]

I think it’s really not easy to be a parent to a teenaged child. I always think it’s challenging.

Frankly speaking, I totally did not remember, but my younger sister told me I always locked myself in the room when I was in high school. I shared the room with my younger sister, and as I was staying in the hostel during high school, she didn’t get…[Read more]

When I was a teenager, I used to shut myself in my bedroom or down in the basement all of the time. I was basically a loner and I liked to be alone. I think as a teenager you are trying to distance yourself from your parents because you are trying to create a sense of independence and can only be that way when you are away from everyone. Teens do…[Read more]

@grecy095/

you got a point there sis.

It is easier to say than to be done.

My hubby and I tried talking to our teenager.

Asking her why she had to lock herself in the room.

She said she needed privacy and hated when someone just barge into her room without knocking the door. My son does that daily. Already told him not to do that because…[Read more]

With all the gadgets and everything and as you said hanky panky, they are dealing with something private of their own. I never lock myself too because I am sharing my room with my siblings. We do not have doors, we have a divider and the divider does not have a lock. I cannot have my privacy at home and how I wish I have it when I was young.

Me,…[Read more]

I never had a child and when I was young, my father never spanks us. My mother never hurt us, even pinched it. They shout at us, verbally hurting us at one time but that’s it. I guess my love for my parents makes all the hurt subside and erased while I was growing. Other parents do this to discipline their child. For them to hurt them is a…[Read more]

I think it’s really interesting that you mention first that spanking doesn’t work, and then go on to say that if other means aren’t effective a parent “just has to” spank. I think that’s how the majority of parents who do spank would probably see it: as a last resort, and often a measure used in frustration, exasperation, and extreme anger.

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You are really of what you are. You’re gentle and you have the pure heart to your parents. That is how we should treat our parents, either they are good or bad. We should follow what the Bible say to honor and respect them or else our salvation is endangered.

@dawnwriter Yes, I agree with you that children actually like to make their parents happy. They do not purposely make us angry. I also think it’s good to let the children know what the boundaries are, and as parents, we need to stick to the boundaries firmly, consistently but lovingly too, otherwise children will be confused. I totally agree with…[Read more]

I have never spanked any of my children nor slapped them on face or body.

But sometimes if at toddler age, they threw  a tantrum, I lightly hit their bottom (never too hard) but to make them stop crying loudly.

From a very young age, I tell my children if they are happy, I am happy and we exchange big smiles. Children like to make their parents…[Read more]

I never spank my children, and I remind myself not to do that, no matter how. I did yell at my elder son, now I rarely yell at them, but still get angry and scold them sometimes. I learned not to yell, and now learning not to get angry and scold them too.

My mom used to beat me when I was young, though I always think I am a good girl. I always…[Read more]