Thanks @morgoodie thgat really touched my heart.  I may be expecting too much from myself to offer to my parents.  Am not envious of what my siblings have become because I am happy for their success.  It’s just that I am the eldest and I just wish that I could provide for my parents than the other way around.

@Ruby3881 I guess everyone has their own preference. I used the heating pad and it helped me but like you said didn’t help you as well. So really it just depends on the person. When I was cramping really bad it made me sick also so it was a real problem getting up and down to reheat the water bottle. As I would also be dizzy.

@peachpurple I think those rumours must be common in some parts of the world. I don’t think I’ve ever heard it here, but I’ve heard quite a number of folks from Asia say that cold drinks make the cramps worse.

@melissa1024 I used to use the heating pad, but I dislike having to be tied down to the electrical outlet. Also, I find the heat from an…[Read more]

I used to get bad cramps when I was younger but I had a really light flow. After my children were born that changed. I had a heavier flow and it got worse after my last child. I would almost feel like I was hemmoraging and sometimes it would be worse when I would move around. I was also in pain during my periods and even when it was not my time. I…[Read more]

@peachpurple your welcome. A heating pad runs off of electricity and you control the temperature. It is basically a pad with a power cord. More convient than a hot water bottle because it doesn’t get cool unless you take it from your tummy or turn it off. You can buy heating pads at most any pharmacy or department store.

@lolaze/

@melissa1024/
thanks for your tips.

I have not try on heating pads.

Maybe I should check out on phamacies, they might sell hot pads.

Which means, I just fill up hot water into the pad, place it on my aching tummy?

I hope that the clots will break free.

Thanks for your concern, I hope to visit the gynae to check on pap smear.

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Happy 75th birthday to your dad. I do not think that your dad would not be proud of you since you are his daughter. Maybe he just does not express it to you enough to let you know how he feels. I would love to be able to be with my dad. He would be 89 this year. He passed away 19 years ago when I was 24 years old. My dad worked during the day and…[Read more]

I am so sorry for your loss. It is not easy losing someone you love and you are close to. I cannot imagine losing my sister who I am very close to and hope that it does not happen for many years to come. Time will soften the pain but it never takes it completely away.

I second the heating pad suggestion.  I also had to be put on prescription birthcontrol pills I had such heavy periods and such pain.  I would faint, vomit, and be generally sick for two weeks out of every month.

I had terrible dysmenorrhea when I was younger. I would have bluish-black nailbeds,  cold sweats and just faint.  I depended on taking either Mefensmic Acid or Naproxen Sodium.  But when I gre older,  I try to refrain from taking any medicine unless the pain has become unbearable.

I remember my grandma telling me to lay in bed straight and put…[Read more]

@peachpurple I am so sorry. That is just a sad situation all around. You and your husband gave it your best by living with her for so many years. I am sure you worry about her now since she is older. I hope things get better.

I have two children that are seven years apart. When my oldest was growing up, I was very strict on him. Maybe even overly strict at times. He did get a few spankings along the way, but never anything severe. However, he was a bit of a handful at the time and I really did not know any other way to be. I was only 21 when he was born, so I was…[Read more]

@jentleheart/

I agree with you, living with the rest of the in law siblings, one is bound to have conflict with one another.

You will see different Groups of family members ganging up to make the life of the other miserable.

Then you can see that these siblings are “currying favor” mom / dad in laws, to gain “power” “money” or backup.

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@s-stephens/

yes you were right after all.

It is difficult to live with someone who doesn’t intend to get along with each other.

One would live a miserable life for sure.

Thanks for your kind words. I just wish that she could hear this.

I want to live with her till her last breath, she is 85++ now.

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@peachpurple I agree with you. I do not really think parents are bad, no matter what parenting style they are using, it might just be different from us. Moreover, I think we also need to consider each child’s personality or temperament, and we might guide them differently too. I believe most parents love their children and are trying to do the…[Read more]

@peachpurple I forgot to mention, that I am sorry your relationship with your MIL was not better. Sometimes, no matter how hard we try, there is no way to get along with some people. Usually those people are very unhappy within themselves and therefore, they try to make others miserable too. I could not live with someone like that. I am sure your…[Read more]