A difference of 7 years between them is considered ideal. But that is history as no one is following that norm. My sister married at the age of 25 to a man who was 42. They seemed a happy couple.

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yes most kids are on daddies side.

Dad always play the good angel role, mom plays the bad old bad guy role.

So am I.

My hubby is a good daddy while I am a witch in the family.

It is always like this , a routine that one had to be the good or bad guy so that kids would listen.

I wish that the role would…[Read more]

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oh that reminds me, you are right, when a child couldn’t do something that parent had instructed, there must be a reason but the child couldn’t explain it well.

You vomitted after you ate the food?

My mom pinced my ears and my arms when I do that.

She doesn’t care if I had problem with the food.

Now that…[Read more]

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maybe in western countries, sending a disobedient child to the corner or to his room worked out but not to Asian children.

When a child started to misbehave, first thing he would do is scream, yell, kick, sprawl on the ground, hit himself until the parent gave in.

No matter what the parent had instructed or…[Read more]

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ahh… it is not easy being a parent.

It is fortunate of you to have mom and dad who never beat or pinch you.

My mom is different from yours.

If you could, I am sure you would be a wonderful mom to your kids in the near future .

Hopefully you can “Stand” the ruckus that you kids had made because I had…[Read more]

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yeah you know, we used to say that “no to spanking” but when the situation goes out of hand, beyond your control, out of your boundary, you just to to whack that little kid to stop all his nonsense once and for all.

It is alike testing your limitation.

Of course, once in a while spanking had to be done not…[Read more]

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you are definitely a good mom who had practiced the right way to teach your kids.

You are alike a good teacher who had educated well your kids.

I wish that all mom could behave your way.

No slapping kids when they are young, because it leaves a bad impression about childhood days.

When I was young, mom…[Read more]

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yes you are right, connection is the key to solve parent and child problems.

Now, most parents are too busy with work that we often neglect our kids attention and needs.

Talking help us to understand better why, how, when, what happened.

Yesterday, my son told me that he didn’t passed up his homework for 1…[Read more]

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yes indeed it is true.

Spanking doesn’t work on kids nowadays.

In the past during my time and my parents time, spanking definitely worked out well because we weren’t able to understand what kids are thinking about.

My mom used to hit me a lot because her temper is extremely bad.

She used cane, her hands,…[Read more]

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wow, your family members included your own children are different from our Asian culture.

Normally, when a woman is divorced, she either remarries or stay single.

However, she would not encourage or allow her own children to do the same, divorce or remarry and give birth to another child with…[Read more]

If keep on thinking abut the trauma it creates constant fear and scare. The best way is to pray so hard, dance once in a while , sing your favorite song and eat ice cream.

In late 90s, I had experienced a great depression. My family doctor has dispensed me with a Valium, an anti-depressant drug. I took it for two weeks time. I had to take it regularly or else I would get mad.

The situation got started when my eldest son took 4 cough tablets to relieve himself of the problem he had with his wife. He opted to do it…[Read more]

Wow, kudos to you guys for admitting and educating fellow members of this community about depression. It is a “curable”/manageable condition but only if you acknowledge you have it and accept the circumstances. Depression is deadly if the person keeps on living in denial about the situation and that is a lot harder to treat.

That said, I don’t…[Read more]

@lola, How do you feel having a bipolar disorder?