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What can make us happy according to experts?
April 29, 2017

Everyone wants to be happy, but not everyone knows how to become such. Different sexes happiness understand differently. Perception of this feeling is different in different cultures and different countries. The results are surprising, but all the experts by one claims the same. First of all, experts offer to give yourself a simple, but very valuable gift – to realize that happiness is not a given phenomenon, but it is what we choose. We choose ourselves whether we will be happy or not. So, let’s choose to be happy.

The good news given to us by experts is that our happiness is not anywhere; happiness is in our own hands. The bad news is that people have enough to love themselves in order to achieve true happiness, but many people in the world lack the self-esteem. The Dalai Lama has said that happiness is not something that is already done. Happiness is our actions.

There are many places that you can visit. Experts do not believe that the pursuit of happiness makes people selfish.

We all just want to be happy. Experts said that it is much easier to get a new job for the happy people, because employers like them.

Money does not buy happiness. Financial independence by experts is not an indicator of happiness.

Happiness does not depend on whether you are a man or a woman – both sexes may be equally happy.

Happy people have good friends. Experts said that happiness increases friends who are real and close

Love yourself. Experts believe that a good relationship with your self is the most important factor of personal happiness and for creating a happy life.

Remember that you are not alone. Experts agree that loneliness and separation from society do not bring happiness. This is a straight path to sorrow.

Happiness is up to you. Experts identified happiness as a choice.

Grandma knows better. Listen to the older people. Experts believe that people, who passed the 60th anniversary, are the happiest.

Food is not happiness, but love is.  Experts would give up their favorite dish forever if it would guarantee a happy life. However, only 9 percent would give up on their romantic relationship for happiness.

Pretend until you feel really happy. Yes, pretend to be very happy, and finally actually become so. Experts believe that happiness can be persuaded.

Do not forget the spiritual things. Experts said that prayer, meditation or other spiritual activities leading towards happiness.

Be happy that you are not known. Experts believe that the awareness and popularity are not a guarantee of happiness. The stars are not happier because they are the stars.

Money makes the world go round, but not happiness.  Experts are sure that the money and ensure financial prosperity is not a smith of true happiness.

Women easier cope with sadness. If they feel unhappy, women easier find a way out and easier handle the situation than men.

Of course, always it is easy to read such advises, but when it comes to really implement them, it seems that to become happy is not as simply as we thought, but it worth our efforts. We nothing lose, but we can gain a lot if really feel happy beings.


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Forget happiness, if you want to be happy
March 23, 2017

Do you think that in order to be happy we have to chase happiness? I do not think so. In fact, people who too much focus on happiness are unhappy. Some people hang on to the idea of happiness, that it just let it through their hands. Waiting till comes this grand moment of euphoria, we miss happiness, which is close to us. Or, once tasted great joy, we are beginning to compare it with other events, and so decline it in value and taking away the positive emotions from ourselves.

Of course, the long-awaited raise in career does not match to typical your child’s performance in the concert, but properly evaluated this event also will give you pleasant sensations.

Some events are emotionally stronger than others, but that does not mean that we have to chase and wait for only those things that will give the greatest euphoria. All the pleasant moments are important, but we need to learn to observe it and enjoy. If all we would carry on the rule of happiness and measure all events, we would rarely experience positive emotions. Sometimes even 2 cm of happiness are much.

The chase of happiness is shallow, short-lived and hedonistic goal. Moreover, we not only reach it, but get the opposite result. People who prefer happiness feel lonelier than those who do not focus on it. Paradoxically, the greater importance we give to happiness, the unhappier we are.

I am not saying that wish to be happy is bad, but it is not the only area in which we should pay attention.  Happy life is like a matrix consisting of happy events, occasionally – sadness, sense perception, playfulness, psychological flexibility, autonomy, mastery and a sense of belonging. You should celebrate every win in any of these areas and too look beyond happiness. It will come when we least expect it.


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Risk raises fear, but also gives new colors for our happiness
March 21, 2017

One of the greatest paradoxes of life – happiness lies where we do not think or do not dare to look for. In fact, we usually at all costs avoid things providing happiness – they are risky, unpleasant and sometimes cause negative feelings. However, they are necessary if you want to win trophy.  To be happy – probably the most popular desire, which was conceived by blowing birthday candles or looking at the falling star in the sky. We all desire happiness and this desire is even stronger than the desire to live a meaningful life. Yes, people all around the word think that happiness is more important than a meaningful life, the being a rich man, or even access the paradise.

Given the proven advantages of happiness research, so it is not surprising exaltation. Happiness has a twofold effect – it not only gives positive emotions, but also helps to pick laurels elsewhere: happy people earn more, are healthier, supports closer ties are more creative, they are doing more and more. Unfortunately, happiness is not easily accessible, and it leads to the most personality-genetic factors. Unfortunately, happiness is not easily accessible, and it most depends on personality-genetic factors.

Yes, sometimes we really feel euphoric, but soon again return to the starting point, like inside we have the thermostat of the happiness, setting limits of this feeling. However, true happiness is more than positive emotions. This is a way of thinking, some kind of expectations, ideals and reconciliation what is impossible to change, and many other factors arithmetic. And we ourselves can affect it.

No matter how is set your happiness thermostat, by changing your daily habits you can change its indicators. These habits are not what you could expect searching for happiness. It is only the result, the finish’s line, to which we must overcome not always an easy path. But if you are happy, you will walk this way.

Happy people know the taste of risk, they are not afraid to experiment. And although the risk is not similar to happiness – after all, there lies the uncertainty and fear – till happiness is not so far. Many do not like to take risks and are afraid of innovation, believing that what they have is the best choice. Maybe it is true, but it still prevents wider opportunities, and possibly better decisions and stronger feelings.

Happy people intuitively know that happiness does not always bring things you love and what is usual for you. Sometimes it is necessary to go beyond the boundaries of your comfort zone, deducing something uncomfortable, initially frightening, so that later you would be rewarded with positive emotion.  Put simply, happy people are curious.

The most satisfaction with their life feels those people who felt curious and tried something new.

Moreover, they were constantly engaged in activities that caused a discomfort, but eventually it pays off with a vengeance. Curious people are ready for the unknown fear and realize that this is not the easiest, but straight way to become stronger and wiser.

Of course, it needs to be curious thoughtfully, not risking in all areas of life. However, we should more often dare to go beyond our comfort zone and look around at what is behind it. Try new things, where the risk is not high. While talking with people, try to stay open and not to judge others, even if their opinions or views are contrary to yours. Try to look at the situation with the other person’s eyes and find positive sides. Open the door to innovations, do not try to control everything and resist.  Twenty years later, I am sure we will more regret for the things that we have not tried, but not for things that we have tried even if did not like them.


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