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Journey To A Better Me

It seems that since I have become a mother my whole life has changed. Usually that’s how it goes right? Your life is supposed to change because it’s no longer just you that you have to take care of. I remember after I had my oldest son I told myself that he was going to be the only one. Sure enough 3 more boys came! This is where life started really getting interesting!

While I was pregnant with my last son my husband and I got married. I don’t know what it was about that day. I kept feeling like I was supposed to be excited. Like my life was really about to change, but in all honesty nothing felt different at all. We had already been living together and we had a second kid on the way, plus we had already been together 2 years.  After that day everything began to become overwhelming and I didn’t realize until just a few years ago that I had completely forgotten who I was. In fact I started to become someone I never wanted to be.

If I am completely honest now, getting married was never ever in my plans. I don’t know, I just never saw myself as falling in love with anyone, wasn’t really sure that true, real love even existed. In fact when my husband first asked me to marry him I said no. I told him to wait another year to ask me with the hopes that he would change his mind about getting married. After all, all I knew about marriages is they didn’t work. The only people who were still married were my grandparents.

Then a year later, my grandpa came to me he liked my husband since the day he met him and he said that it was time to get married. I took it as my sign from God, that this was in fact the man that I was supposed to marry. So I said yes and in a matter of months we were getting married. Not too long after we married things began to change. My husband didn’t give me the attention that he did before we were married. In fact he told me that he didn’t have to try so hard now because he already married me. I think that was the turning point of me and who I was.

A few months in the marriage I came across a guy that had a huge crush on when I was little and he was single at the time. We started chatting and getting to know each other again and come to find out he had a crush on me too. When he told me that I believed it, but I can clearly remember him being a womanizer and pretty much just loved the attention from whoever would give it to him. Needless to say, we started an very inappropriate conversation and I was swept up in everything he was saying. It had gotten to the point where I would begin to think about him a lot. He would send me good morning messages, which to me showed that I was on his mind when he woke up. We would chat all day long and this started to put distance between my husband and I. My husband was so caught up in work that I didn’t even think that he noticed. Long story short my husband ended up seeing all the messages that we had been sending back and forth and he got upset.

At first I didn’t too much care because this guy was giving me time that my husband wasn’t, but then I saw how much it was hurting my husband and it took a while but my husband forgave me and I stopped talking to that guy. Then for a few months after that things would seem to go really well my husband started showing the attention that he once showed before, then out of the blue it stopped again, and once again I was searching for someone to make me feel wanted. So I joined a dating app and started talking to a new guy and once again the conversation became very inappropriate. Again I was caught and again we went down that same road of arguments and pattern, until my husband finally said that it couldn’t happen again and if it did he would leave.

At this point I told myself that no matter what happened, I needed to stop the nonsense and behave like  a married woman. For a while I did good. But I started feeling unappreciated again from my husband and kids. I started to feel like I had no worth and all the work that I was putting in to be better didn’t even matter because at the end of the day no one cared about me. About my feelings, wants or needs and I needed someone to care about me. I needed someone to make me feel like a person. Sad to say I met someone else he thought I was beautiful and made me feel as such.

I would preform my wifely duties and mother duties at home but in my spare time I would lie about where I was going. I started meeting up with the new guy, who just happened to be the brother of the first guy. He was closer to my age. He knew I had a husband and kids and he wasn’t looking for anything serious. We decided that we would be friends and see where things went from there. I felt so a live when him and I were together. I felt more like me when I was with him. We spent our time talking and laughing and he would hold me. Something I missed with my husband, the only time my husband would show affection was when he wanted something from me. But with this guy it wasn’t like that. He enjoyed spending time with me and I enjoyed his time as well. We watched movies together, smoked together, discovered new music together. We debated a lot, so our conversations were always high spirited.

He made me feel like if something had ever happened between my husband and I that there would still be hope in finding someone that would love me. Even with all my kids. Our relationship went on for months until he started demanding more of my time. Now it wasn’t that he was asking more of my time, it was that I took it that he wanted more of me in a relationship. I didn’t want to just assume, so I asked him and sure enough I was right, the only thing was he was willing to be the side guy only until she found someone that he was going to start a serious relationship with. If that happened, her said that he would be faithful to her and wouldn’t cheat on her with me. That rubbed  the wrong way. How could he have no problem with me cheating on my husband with him, but wouldn’t do the same if he found someone he wanted to make his girlfriend? That seemed like a double standard to me. That changed our relationship. That to me meant that he only wanted to play with my emotions.

I didn’t want to tell him how pissed I was, because I didn’t want to feel like I was catching feeling for him or anything, and I didn’t want him to think I was crazy and then use that as an excuse for him to stop talking to me. No way I was going to let this fuck boy end things ( break up) with me, so I lied and said my husband found out about him and for both of our safety we should call it off. I felt good about it for a few days. Then a few days later I started thinking about him again, I started missing him. So I emailed him everything that I was feeling. I laid it all out. A week went by and I never heard anything from him. So I gave in and texted him asking if he had gotten it. I forgot to delete the message and my husband went through my phone and found the text, then he went through my sent mail and found the email that I sent to him. Then he woke me up and my husband was in tears. He said it was over and for the first real time of all the many times we had been here in this situation, my heart broke. We fought something ugly I packed my bags and I thought this was really it.

My husband did something that changed me though, he took me by the hand and told me I wasn’t going anywhere and neither was he, that we were going to work this out. This is when it hit me, I remember asking God why hanging out with my friend felt so good if it was so wrong. This was the answer…I feel like everything that happened this time with my friend showed me that the grass wasn’t any better on the other side and that I needed to really take a minute and examine my life and my choices, so that’s what I’ve been doing.

I feel that since then I have come a hell of a long way, but you’ll have to wait until my next post to see what things I’ve had to discover about myself, and let me tell you, once I started down this road of who I am and who I want to me, it’s been one I’ll never forget.

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Expectations can hurt us what not to expect

When we give, it is but natural for us to expect something in return. This is true for any kind of human relationship whether it be friendships, romantic relationships or family ties. There is no escaping the desire to be appreciated, to be rewarded and to obtain some token in exchange for the favors we do.

     But when we constantly give, there are times when the person becomes conditioned to keep on receiving. Every so often our generosity is taken for granted. In some cases, the person even becomes dependent on us. And this is when problems arise.

     It takes maturity and reflection to realize that when people are kind to us, we should not abuse it. In fact, we should reciprocate. For is this not upon which a healthy and mature relationship is based? The principle of give and take is an essential ingredient of any lasting human relationship.

     However, there are people who may be blinded by their ego and may fail to appreciate what others do for them. A proud person finds it difficult to acknowledge the generosity of others because he sees this as an admission of his dependence.

     If we feel that our efforts are unappreciated or that we are already being used, then it is not wrong to stop giving. What is wrong is to encourage other people’s dependence on us. Because if we do so, it won’t be long before we find ourselves being manipulated and abused.

     It takes an even greater level of maturity to not expect anything at all, because the true essence of selflessness is to see that giving is its own reward. By realizing this, we can rid ourselves of any expectation. And by having no expectations, we will avoid being hurt.
The bottom life, treat others as you would like to be treated. Return kindness with kindness. Forgive others as others have forgiven you. Learn from the times you have been let down.

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The truth about Adam Levine and Blake Shelton’s relationship
April 26, 2018
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Adam Levine and Blake Shelton’s bromance is truly TV gold. Their constant fighting on
The Voice — which ranges from petty name-calling to Shelton once tweeting out Levine’s actual private cellphone number — is more entertaining than most of the musical performances on the show. And the two apparently hit it off right away.
“I was instantly very taken by him ’cause he was definitely not your typical country artist,” Levine told People. “He was not a cookie-cutter guy, and the second we met, we were friends. All of the bulls**t that we do comes from a place of love.”
Shelton said of the bromance, “I have a man crush on Adam. It blows me away people can pick up on that just by watching that on television” (via MTV News). He added, “I want to kiss him. I want to kiss him so bad. I don’t care if it’s mutual or not … He’s sexy, is the word I’m using.”
That said, the friendship between Shelton and Levine hasn’t been without its issues. Aside from their on-air bickering, a source revealed to Life & Style in October 2017 that the kinship had “cooled off” and “seemed forced” when the duo weren’t filming. So what really gives? Well, it sounds like their friendship is pretty normal, despite their infamy, with ebbs, flows, and a healthy rivalry.
They’re super competitive
Levine and Shelton love to give each other a hard time on the set of The Voice , with an insider telling Us Weekly that Levine is, by far, the most competitive coach on the series. In November 2017, Shelton — who, at the time of this writing, has won the show six times — joked on Live With Kelly And Ryan that his secret to victory is “cheating,” but he later admitted that the bulk of his success is likely due to the rabid loyalty of his country fanbase.
When Levine’s contestant Jordan Smith won season nine, Levine — who’s been victorious for three seasons — couldn’t wait to rub it in Shelton’s face. “It’s really quite beautiful because Jordan gets to win The Voice and I get to tear Blake apart for the next six months,” Levine bragged to Entertainment Tonight.
Levine and Shelton’s rivalry is so notorious, in fact, that NBC recorded separate promos for them for season 13 comparing them to Real Housewives. Drama!
Levine was the first to find out about Shelton’s secret romance
Blake Shelton and Gwen Stefani are the king and queen of PDA , whether they’re hanging all over each other at awards shows, drooling over each other on The Voice , or just constantly posting about one another on social media. As a result, it’s pretty surprising that they were able to keep their romance relatively quiet in the early days of their courtship — in fact, they were even able to keep it a secret from Adam Levine for a while.
Levine told The Howard Stern Show (via People) in October 2017 that Shelton and Stefani actually lied to Levine and the rest of their The Voice colleagues about their romance “for a long time.” However, Levine had suspected something was up between the then-newly single pair but only figured it out for sure once they all went to dinner together and he caught Stefani and Shelton sneaking a smooch.
“They kissed or something — they did something crazy,” Levine said. “Imagine if two of your friends who don’t hook up started kissing. It was something that was a giveaway and I was like, ‘I f***ing knew it!'”
Shelton has wanted to kill Levine at least once
Shelton admitted to The Tennessean that his friendship with Levine makes as little sense to them as it does to the rest of the world, but they have a rule that many couples also share: They never go to bed angry.
“We are constantly at each other’s throats, and sometimes we really do get mad at each other,” Shelton said. “We’re those two guys you knew in high school where we have this bond that is unexplainable. It brings out the best and worst in both of us. It truly is an explosive relationship.” He added that he and Levine know exactly what to do and say to get under one another’s skin, but that they’re ultimately like brothers. While they may bicker and fight, they’re always there to support one another in times of need.
“I’ve stayed at the man’s house with him,” Shelton revealed. “He’s one of the best friends that I have, but I still want to kill him sometimes.”
Shelton and Kelly Clarkson made Levine cry
Blake Shelton and fellow The Voice coach Kelly Clarkson are close friends — so close that he was originally slated to officiate her wedding to Brandon Blackstock. So, it’d make sense that they’d like to team up to troll fellow coach Adam Levine.
In March 2018, Shelton revealed on The Tonight Show that he and Clarkson attended a Maroon 5 concert near Shelton’s Oklahoma home on New Year’s Eve to “make fun of” Levine at the show. Shelton revealed that they all had a few drinks and that they’d hired a designated driver to get them all home safely — and that the designated driver got pulled over by cops en route.
“Not that we don’t respect the police, but we knew we hadn’t done anything wrong,” Shelton said. “So, you can be a little cocky, or you know, at that point … Adam didn’t see it that way because Adam is from Los Angeles, where you don’t talk back to the police. And in Oklahoma, if you’ve got a good point, you do sometimes, you know?”
Shelton and Clarkson sassed the cop in a big way (but a friendly one), which made Levine
really upset, with Shelton claiming that Levine was convinced they were going to jail. Shelton mimicked Levine’s voice cracking and tearing up, saying, “Kelly, shut up! Shut up!”
According to Shelton, it wasn’t the only time he’d made Levine cry. He told The Tennessean, “Until someone is crying, it doesn’t stop.”
They beefed over each other’s Sexiest Man Alive honors
People magazine named Adam Levine the Sexiest Man Alive in 2013 — much to Shelton’s chagrin — so when Shelton got the title in November 2017, he made sure to rub it in Levine’s face. “I can’t wait to shove this up Adam’s a**,” Shelton cracked to People. “As proud as I am and honored that you guys asked me, that’s really the only thing I care about.”
The sexiness beef didn’t end there. Levine said on Jimmy Kimmel Live in January 2018 that when Shelton was named Sexiest Man Alive, the ” What Lovers Do” singer blew up an image of his own 2013 cover, framed it, and sent it to Shelton.
“This is not a cheap practical joke, by the way; it’s a lot more expensive than I care to admit — and I sent it to [Shelton’s] house in Oklahoma,” Levine said. “He put it in his barn.” He added, “He’s not sexy! It also made it feel worse that I got it … I guess I’m not as sexy as I thought I was.”
If either one of them leaves The Voice, the other will follow
The Voice judges’ chairs can be a revolving door … with two exceptions: Adam Levine and Blake Shelton, who’ve been around since day one. Though Shelton and Levine are constantly beefing on the set of the show, fans and staff alike know that the show wouldn’t be the same without either one of them — and the two bickering coaches are reportedly using their chemistry to their advantage in salary negotiations with producers.
In January 2018, a source told Radar Online that Levine was itching to quit the show to stay home and be a family man with wife Behati Prinsloo and his two daughters. The source revealed, “If Adam leaves, Blake is going to follow because he has been over it for a while. Ever since Gwen left, Blake has been ready to go.”
Shelton said as much himself. He told Country Countdown USA in 2015, “It’s never even come up where Adam and I aren’t there … I’ve told them if that ever comes up, I’m just gone period.”
The alleged reluctance to return to the show actually helped Shelton and Levine’s paychecks.
A source told Radar Online that once word got out that the boys wanted out, Levine and Shelton were each offered a $5 million bonus to stay on The Voice through 2020 because execs feared that ratings would take a nosedive without their bickering bromance.
They like each other’s ladies
Though Levine and Shelton can often be at one another’s throats, their relationships with one another’s significant others are totally amicable.
In May 2016, when Levine’s wife, supermodel Behati Prinsloo, was pregnant with their first child, daughter Dusty Rose, she posed for a silly snap with Shelton. In the photo, Prinsloo and Shelton can be seen each showing off their respective bellies. (Hers was from her actual baby bump, while Shelton’s was likely from Southern cooking and booze.) Levine
posted the photo to his Instagram page, writing, “Met these two sweet pregnant ladies today. Good luck @blakeshelton and @behatiprinsloo!”
Levine, meanwhile, is a huge fan of Stefani. He told The Howard Stern Show (via People) that the “Sweet Escape” singer is “the best” and the he counts her and Shelton among his very closest friends. Of course, he also added that he outright told Shelton that he “can’t believe [he] gets to be with Gwen Stefani. It’s just not f***ing right!”
The bromance is real
For as much of a hard time as Adam Levine and Blake Shelton give one another, there is a lot of genuine affection between them. It was never more apparent than when Shelton spoke at Levine’s Hollywood Walk of Fame induction ceremony in February 2017.
After saying he was disappointed that the speech wasn’t a roast, Shelton told the crowd (via Entertainment Tonight), “If you would have told me that this guy would end up being one of my best friends, I would have called you crazy … But I have seen a lot of ups and downs, and I have never had a more honest and loyal friend than Adam Levine through my personal journey.” He added, “We all know he is a huge star with music and movies and television, but I am happy to see him get this, because he is my friend and nobody is more shocked — I mean proud — than I am that he is going to have a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame forever. Congratulations, brother. I love you.”

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Human sexuality: developing a sense of self
March 27, 2018
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calendula-Despite the CircumstancesWe can overcome the toughest situations in our lives if we believe we can. Image Credit: pixabay.com

Some people know their interests early on, and others must search for a longer time.

Most diseases can cause irreversible damage if untreated.

Knowing yourself is crucial for developing satisfying relationships with others, choosing a career, and accepting and enjoying the person you really are.

The way you see yourself is your self-concept. A person who has a realistic self-concept is aware of his or her strengths and weaknesses. Closely linked to your self-concept is your self-esteem. Self-esteem refers to the amount of confidence you have in yourself and to the satisfaction you feel about yourself.

Your family has a great influence on your personality.

The way others see you and your responses to their opinions also affect your self-concept and self-esteem. The more unsure of yourself you are, the more other people’s opinions affect you. Criticism should cause you to examine your reasons for acting and your basic beliefs.

Hormones are chemicals produced by your body.

Fatigue can greatly affect your emotions.

Part of learning who you are involves finding out what you truly value. Your values are those things that you consider worth while and worth pursuing. Your responses to your different activities can provide you with clues to your values. Once you determine your values, you can do more to live your life according to the things that are important to you.

When you are trying to discover your interests and values, it’s important to analyze what exactly it is you like about an activity.

You may try several hobbies, past times, and jobs before finding ones that suit you.

A realistic catalog of your strengths and weaknesses can also help you discover who you are-and who you can be. Your strengths can tell you much about yourself and your possibilities. Knowing your weaknesses can also help you learn about yourself.

Discovering who you are may involve exploring a number of roles.

When you need to make a decision, find a quiet time to sit down and list your choices.

Determining the issue is an important step in the decision-making process.

Steps in the decision-making process: no matter what kind of decision you need to make, there is a step-by-step process that can help you make a good choice. (1) Choose a convenient time, place, and situation in which to work, (2) determine the issue, (3) brainstorm possible solutions, (4) evaluate each possible solution by listing the pros and cons of each one, (5) choose the best possible solution, (6) decide on when and how to put the solution into effect, (7) evaluate the solution. A step-by-step decision-making process helps you choose a solution that is likely to work.

Each person is unique. A combination of heredity and experience determines each person’s characteristics. Experiences help determine a person’s self-concept and self-esteem. People with a realistic self-concept and high self-esteem can take criticism in stride. Making yourself aware of your good points and your successes can improve your self-esteem.

The changes that are taking place in your mind and body affect your feelings not only about yourself but also about other people.

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We all have that one person..

This blog post is dedicated to a person very special to me. That’s not my girlfriend, best friend, my pet, my parents or anyone else. It’s my very own cousin. He is the person that I admire the most, and no matter how much we argue sometimes, I love him because he’s my blood and I grew up with him alongside my parents too.

We all have that one person that we reflect to, and we admire. In my case that is my 23 year old cousin, that I admire the most on this world. I’ll list some reasons down below why.

  1. He’s parent-like to me

    First of all, and the most important reason is that he is parent-like to me. Whenever I feel his presence I feel like I am watched by my parents, he is like a third parent to me. I am totally relaxed in front of him, he has a sense of humor, I can tell a secret or joke in front of him, but also he is very open for giving advises too.

2. His personality

His personality is probably the second reason why I admire him most. He is the type of guy that is calm, muscular dude with  brown eyes and soft celebrity-alike hairstyle. But I would not go further into describing his outer appearance, as that will sound gay, which I’m not lol. Okay as I said first, his personality is what I listed second and I have a reason for that. He is always calm, no matter what the situation is. He handles every situation like a pro, and he has the mindset of a 21st century person. If I told him tomorrow that my girlfriend is pregnant, he wouldn’t panic or curse as he is not stupid middle-aged freak, his mentality is awesome and that’s what I like mostly about people.

3. His Knowledge

Third of the reasons, is knowledge. Everything I learned until today (and still learning) about world news, politics, soccer, basketball, sports and general life-hacks, was taught to me by him. As he is attending the best faculty in our city, he has gained a lot of knowledge and I hope one day he will have a big promising career that will bring him fortune and lot of clients.  His knowledge goes same for his advises, every advise he has given me until now was based on his knowledge. He never talks before knowing the facts.

4. HE’S Realistic

Although this reason hurts me badly sometimes, I have to agree this is one of the top 4 reasons why I admire and love him. He is realistic and honest. He made me eat healthy and made me aware of my unhealthy eating routine for the past years, and is never lying me. He is always open with me, and he spreads his words and opinions about me in front of me without lying me. He is realistic even tho that is often savage. That’s a very good thing because if he wasn’t realistic I would not have changed many things about me today which I am happy I did.

 

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Simple habits can ruin your relationship

Relationships seem a very popular topic on an every website, but what those devices may give us besides the things we already know. Or even yet better, the things we don’t agree at all because they are not logical.
But everything about human behavior and feelings is not logical, we all do stuff that is not reasonable or even not normal from time e to time.
When I observe the social life some of my friends have I have no doubts why their family life goes berserk from time e to time.
While somebody thinks it is all about fidelity and how partners have to be in love, romantically crushing over each other all the time, I know it is not true and marriages are not unfortunate because of this.
By culture, I come from a country that is not beneficial to the women, for some reason it is still believed that women are less worthy so in marriage, it should be even more obvious.
I don’t comply with this general opinion and not many of my friends. In fact, I avoid being affiliated to anybody who thinks one partner in marriage is by anything better from the another. They are both worthy.
So, where the hell rises in the relationships at the first sight?
Lack of the tolerance e. Lack of understanding. Maybe your partner snores…? Lol, yes I k now it is funny, but some people go crazy about it.
Simple habits can ruin your relationship just like that because always one partner thinks he has the right to change the another one. Men are usually spoiled divas who expect that a wife swap places to his own mother, which is quite impossible.
Don’t tell me it is not so , I saw it so many times, and if a wife falls in it, man blames it on her, like if it is his right. Not a nice start to a marriage.

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The Points I Use To Keep My Marriage Secure

Marriage should be secured

Marriage should be secured


1. Greeting My Wife Every Morning With A Kiss
To keep my marriage under proper security, I greet my wife every morning with a kiss. That is after prayers. I do this to reassure her that my love for her has not reduced. I also use greeting and kissing her to wish her good luck for that day.
She returns the greeting and the kissing. My wife being the life wire of chores in the family, example taking care of the kids, washing our clothes, cooking for us, she needs an encouragement from me. At least greeting and kissing is not bought in a supermarket, I freely offer it to make her happy for the day.
2. Bathing With My Wife Daily
I bathe with my wife to show that we are inseperable.There is nothing evil in having our bathe together. This activity makes me to help wash her back and she washes my back also. With bathing together, I will not look at another woman for the day. This is because my wife is the most beautiful woman on earth. That is why she is “the bone of my bone and the flesh of my flesh”
3. Sleeping with her on the same bed
One of the measures I use to keep my marriage secure is to sleep with my wife on the same bed. Sleeping together with makes me feel her. This makes it impossible for me to start wondering how I will be in another woman’s bosom.
Sleeping together with my wife on the same bed enables me to discuss pressing issues when I remember them at night. I may forget discussing issues if I sleep elsewhere. It is important to be close to your wife to monitor her health condition as she will also monitor mine own health condition.
4. Going to shopping with my wife
Another aspect of keeping my marriage secure is to go to shopping with my wife. For the past twelve years, we make a list of items before going for purchases. Once we are satisfied with our list, we go to the market.
After purchases, we share the items into two bags if the items bought are enormous. We carry the bags home together. If the bag is only one with items, we keep on exchanging the bag carrying it between ourselves until we get home. It is quite a happy exercise. The reason is because a woman is a helper to the man, while a man is the manager of the family.

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What New Lovers Like to Do Together

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The Two Love Hanging Out For Plans At Nights
Getting into love affairs generate a lot of happiness. In the life of a relationship, couples mostly like to hang out in the evening and nights to make plans for the future. It is quite good to be together to familiarize with each other. It is at these meetings that the man and woman in the relationship bare their minds and get cleared of any doubts regarding the relationship.
Hanging out may be in under a tree, in a restaurant, hotel or any place conducive for the partners -to -be. It is an interesting period of the relationship. At the meetings gifts are exchanged. Poachers in the relationship are discussed. The families of the man and the woman are discussed. How to convince parents, relations and siblings are also discussed. The times for hanging out are memorable as the relationship matures.
2. They Regard Shopping Together At Reputable Stores
It is noteworthy that lovers move together for shopping at reputable stores or supermarkets. The couples –to- be dress from their families or apartments and meet at an agreed place. From there they either board a vehicle or stroll to the market, supermarket or store for their purchases.
Most time it is the woman that gains more of the items. The man buys the needs of the woman. In some cases, the woman buys some items for her heart throb with her own money for remembrance. The gifts gladden the heart of the two of them after return from the purchases. Most times the young woman displays her new dresses with admiration of her peers. Some of those outside the relationship either become envious or jealous.
3. They enjoy other Activities together.
The lovers betrothed like attending to activities together. The man assists in preparation of food. He can undertake to wash and cut the vegetables, pound or grind the pepper. The woman does the actual cooking. The food cooked in this condition is mostly sweet because it is the combined effort in love of the two persons. The lovers also like to go for games, church activities, funerals and other social activities, but mostly they stay apart from each other.

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Points That Attract a Man to Marry a Woman

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A Woman’s Dressing Attracts a Man
A man can be attracted to a woman through her dressing. Most men prefer women who dress decently while some get attracted to women who dress indecently. Most times men rather go for friendship to women who dress indecently but marry those who are well dressed as wives.
The praises men give to a well dressed woman cannot be over emphasized. Women need to define why they are putting dresses and for what reason. It is the dressing of a woman that tells her character and moral value.
2. The man’s compliments to her make ups
Another aspect of attraction is the make ups of a woman. Most women take cognizance of their dresses before making up. Some really make up according to the colour of their dresses.Most women do not think of how they look after making up. Some who are careful to do their make ups attract men who have the eyes of beauty. It is really an eye-sour if a woman dresses in colour riots. This means that from her face to her toes bears different colours.This does not attract the eyes that love beauty.
3. Men Cherish The Time They Stay Together With Their Girlfriends
Men cherish being together with their girl friends. Staying together means planning together. The time men spend with their girl friends are valued more than business time. There are days when a man in love will like to stay with his girl friend from 6am to 6pm playing, discussing eating and drinking together.
Through staying together during courtship the men get familiar with the women they want to marry. It is better to be familiar with a spouse than the hypocritical deception of “not knowing him or her until marriage proper”. Most times the marriages of couples who did not stay together during courtship” hit the rocks” with time. It is ideal for couples to know themselves properly before agreeing to live together as husband and wife. Marriage is a long term project which needs careful study before engaging in it.

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Ye Are the Salt of the Earth

Salt is one of the condiments on Dinning Table

“Ye are the salt of the earth: but if the salt has lost his savour, wherewith shall it be salted? it is thenceforth good for nothing, but to be cast out, and to be trodden under foot of men”.
Immediately after the discuss called the “Beatitudes”,Our Lord Jesus Christ in the 13th Verse of the 5th Chapter of the Gospel written by St Matthew in the Christian Bible gave all people created by God a name. He said, “You are the salt of the earth”.
Salt as mentioned by Jesus Christ here is the edible salt comprising of sodium and chlorine. In science the complete balance is called sodium chloride. This full chemical balance called the common salt is used to sweeten food during cooking, preservation of raw meat to avoid decay, purification of fruits and vegetables. The image of this post shows that salt is one of the condiments that should be on the dinning table.The common salt is used with sugar in medical preparation of oral solution. The oral solution is a temporary food for the sick ones. Patients are advised to use Oral Rehydration Therapy (ORT)to help themselves build up energy fast.
So Jesus called us “the salt of the earth” because he believes that his hearers and followers then and in all generations shall exhibit sweetness of character, preservation of life, and purity of life. He expects us to comfort and sweeten the lives of the people in this dying world. Ours is to raise hope for all who come close to us or those who are far from us. We are to preserve all issues that elongate the world’s life’s span. As Christians and lovers of God, our lives and conducts should be role models for the world to see.
Did not the Saviour of the world rate us with high demand of responsibility? Yes,He says, “Ye are the salt of the earth “.Are we in this generation living up to the “big name “given to us? The answer can be personally answered. Continuing Jesus Christ the saviour said,” but if the salt have lost his savour, wherewith shall it be salted? it is thenceforth good for nothing, but to be cast out, and to be trodden under foot of men”.It is noteworthy that the saviour balanced his words by reminding us that though men are regarded as salt by the heavenly authority, they can decide to lose their “savour”, that is become ineffective. Imagine food in which salt was put tasting as if no salt was put in it. The eaters of the cooked food must request for salt to sweeten the food. That means a life without sweetness creates hopelessness .The salt that loses its savour is only good to be thrown out of the house and men will walk upon it.
Examine your life! How do you rate your life and its impact in our world?.Do you give sweetness to this generation?.What of the violence to humanity, immoral videos, indecent dressings, promiscuity, bestiality, homosexual practices,embezzlements,official curruptions,kidnappings,frauds,armed robberies, pen robberies, internet scams, marital infidelities and encouragement of those who promote these evils. The biblical scripture reminds us that it is only “The fool (that)hath said in his heart, There is no God. The are corrupt, they have done abominable works, there is none that doeth good”. So many people are pulling out of the present wickedness of this generation.
The statement,” but if the salt have lost his savour, wherewith shall it be salted? it is thenceforth good for nothing, but to be cast out, and to be trodden under foot of men” is a judgement directly pronounced on those who refused to act according to the word of our saviour. You are the salt of the earth.

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