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How to Stay in Love Forever With Your Lover

Let’s face it, falling in love is something very exciting but staying in love can be painful at times.

You may not voice this out loud or even talk about it with your partner.

But at some point in every long relationship, all of us wonder about how to stay in love forever.

Even in the happiest of relationships, it’s natural to get interested in someone else or find someone else attractive.

It may seem surprising, but it’s against human instincts to stay in a monogamous relationship or not find someone else sexually appealing.

But then again, social norms and societal pressures bind us to stay in a committed relationship.

How to stay in love forever

To understand how to stay in love forever, we have to understand the basic requirements of a romantic relationship.

And we have to accept that sexual attraction and love are two completely different aspects that come together in a successful romantic relationship.

Staying in romantic love with your lover doesn’t just depend upon intense love or affection for your partner.

If staying in love was all about fondly liking someone or loving them unconditionally, there’s no difference in the love you’d experience for a friend, a sibling, a child or even a parent. In these cases, love is unconditional.

But romantic love needs intense love and sexual attraction to work successfully. And to make a relationship work, you need to keep the relationship alive and relive the excitement of the first few weeks of love every day for the rest of your lives.

Of course, it’s rather difficult to trick your mind into recreating those fleeting glances of first love and those passionate first kisses, but it’s definitely doable if you use these simple relationship changing steps on how to stay in love.

Ways to stay in love forever

To stay in love forever, learn to keep an open mind and always exchange thoughts with your partner to create new exciting memories that can last a lifetime. And never ever forget the two things that are required to stay in love, affection and sexual desire. Find out how to use affection and sexual desire to stay in love with each other using these tips.

Get a great body

Yes, this is shallow. And you need to face it, sexual desire is shallow too! If you want your partner to love you and desire you, you really can’t expect your partner to desire your Michelin tires, can you?

In several extensive surveys, it’s seen that over 60% of Americans are either overweight or obese. In the beginning of a relationship, you pay attention to your physique and try to look your fittest best. But as the years go by, you know you have a partner who won’t leave you anyway and you just stop taking care of your own body.

To feel good in a relationship or to sexually attract your partner, you really need to like what you see in the mirror every day. You can’t expect the affection and sexual interest to stay on if you can’t arouse your partner anymore. It’s brutal, but you can’t laze like a slob and expect your partner to genuinely think you’re sexy and find you desirable!

Dress up and look your best

Looking fit and getting a great physique is the first step to knowing how to stay in love, but that’s just not enough to arouse the sexual desire in long term relationships. You also have to understand how to look good when you’re walking down the street.

Sexual desire is an evolutionary trait, but knowing that there are a lot of other people who give you a second glance involuntarily makes your own partner desire you more.

Look your best, whether you’re at home or out with your partner at the movies or at a restaurant. Groom yourself and awe the people around you, and your partner will love you more, respect you more and definitely sexually desire you more than you’ll ever know!

Give each other space

As the relationship grows older, lovers start to spend time with each other a lot more than they would at the beginning. While spending every evening together is a great way to bond, it’s not good for the relationship.

If you really want to know how to stay in love forever, you need to learn to give each other space in the relationship to grow as individuals. Create your own hobbies and explore your own interests. Enjoy something that you love doing, be it playing video games or gardening, and grow your own passions. Keep your own lives interesting, and you’ll be able to have better and more interesting conversations with your partner.

Go out with your own friends

In a long term relationship, the lives of the partners are too closely entwined and one partner’s life becomes the other partner’s life. But for a successful romantic relationship, you have to remember that both of you are two individuals who love each other and desire each other, not two people who are attached at the hips. Every now and then, spend time with your own friends, have your own jokes and share your own gossip.

Understanding how to stay in love forever can be difficult to follow if all you look forward to is the monotony of a bored life together, right from the moment you wake up to the time you kiss each other good night.

In a successful relationship, both partners have to be excited to see each and share the events of their daily lives. If there’s no difference between one day and the next, your relationship can get pretty boring and distasteful.

Spend time with each other

To stay in love forever, it’s important to give each other space and grow your own life. But at the same time, both partners should spend enough time with each other to talk about each other’s day and spend quality time with each other, be it watching movies or just cuddling up and watching the evening soaps on the television.

Most couples assume they have to spend every minute possible with each other, but for a relationship to be successful, that’s just not true.

More than the time spent with each other, what really matters is the quality time either of you spend with each other. By creating your own lives, both of you would have a lot more to talk about with each other. At the same time, both of you would be excited to spend time with each other instead of just sitting next to each other and staring into space or reading a book. By avoiding all individual social activities, hobbies and social interactions and spending all the time with each other, you aren’t really improving your relationship. Instead, you’re just boring each other and preventing each other from growing into exciting individuals who can be more fun and interesting. Knowing how to stay in love forever is pretty simple, as long as you remember to stay as two individuals in love instead of one couple living together.

To keep a relationship exciting, it takes little steps to help each other become better individuals and grow each day, so that each of you can inspire your partner to become a better person.

After all, isn’t it more exciting to fall in love with a better person every day, rather than live with someone whom you fell in love with years ago? Use these tips on how to stay in love forever.

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Important Lessons That Everyone Needs to Learn About Finance.

The most important things about personal finance that someone without a finance background must know?

1. The Nature of “Risk”.

Risk is a bad word to most laymen. We are encouraged from an early age to avoid risk at all costs. We look to mitigate it in our lives as much as possible; buy insurance, avoid “risky” investments, jobs, etc. We try to avoid risk in our personal lives, too. We don’t ask the risky question, we don’t say the risky thing, we don’t speak up because of what might happen next…

What we in finance understand is that risk equals reward. You cannot gain something without the willingness to give something up.

There is a passage in the New Testament: “Whoever would save his life will lose it.” Whether you agree with the context of the passage is irrelevant, the wisdom is still there. If you hold so tightly to the status quo that you are not willing to see it change, then the status quo won’t change! You must be willing to lose the status quo to gain something better.

Try taking a risk in your career, in your investments, in your relationships. Of course, the definition of risk is that the outcome is uncertain. Each decision may or may not pay off. But, in the end, the person who lives a life of taking smart risks is the person you want to be.

2. Low Fees Does Not Equal Low Cost.

Over time, bad decisions, mistakes and poor planning can add up to a higher cost than simply paying to have it done right in the first place. This doesn’t mean spending extra money just to spend it, his point simply expresses the importance of paying for value.

3. The Only Personal Financial Advice I’ve Ever Gotten From Really Wealthy People.

One very big difference between the extremely wealthy and the rest of us is this: the world is malleable. With enough effort, time, capital—something—you can literally change the world.

This applies to your personal situation, too. It isn’t a given, it can be changed. You may need to be creative, or do tons of research, or put in lots of hours, but you can change your situation, dramatically.

Stop thinking of your situation as static. It is as big or little as you want it to be.

4. Money Is Not the Main Concern.

Interestingly, the biggest concerns of the wealthy have absolutely nothing to do with money. Money is just a magnifying glass: everything great about you gets bigger, everything bad about you gets bigger.

Bottom line: money comes and goes. Wealth is more than money. Cultivate your relationships, family, friends.

5. You Can Be President 

If

We are all taught in kindergarten that we could be president of the United States. You can be an astronaut if you want. You can be….

What they don’t teach you is that, yes, you could be anything you want to be if you are willing to make the sacrifices necessary to achieve it. The world doesn’t owe you anything. If you want something, you have to be willing to give up something. No one teaches that anymore.

6. How Markets Work.

We live in a golden age of investing. If you can dream it, you can do it. There is a tyranny in that choice. Furthermore, studies show over and over that individual investors are really bad at managing their money.

Gaining a basic understanding of what markets are and how they work can really go a long way in giving you a comfort level when you go to participate in them. It will also give you a healthy dose of cynicism.

Public markets were designed, first and foremost, to take money from the public. That doesn’t mean you can’t profit from them, it simply means that you must be very, very careful.

7. Cash is Not “Safe”.

I can’t tell you how many questions I’ve fielded from folks concerned about investing their cash. “Cash is safe,” I hear over and over again.

In one way, yes, cash is safe. What you need to understand, though, is that no matter what, you are taking a risk. Every year, your cash loses about 2.7%. That means your $100,000 in cash is going to be worth $99,775 next month, then $99,550 the month after that.

See the point? Yes, your cash is “safe” in that it is predictable. But don’t be fooled, it is losing value. Cash has a role, but that role is not to maintain your wealth.

8. You Need to Know the Truth About Gold.

Let’s be real about the role of gold in a portfolio. Yes, it can be part of an overall allocation. But, gold is not a replacement for a diversified portfolio.

The advertisers on CNBC are really good at making gold sound like the answer. Especially during times of crisis. “It’s the only real money!” I’ve heard it all.

But here is the hard truth about gold:

  1. Gold has lost value relative to inflation since 1981. Despite what gold proponents will tell you, gold is a terrible long-term hedge against inflation.
  2. Gold is three times more volatile than stocks. For investors fleeing the stock market because it is too volatile, gold is not the answer. It is a bigger roller coaster ride than the stock market!
  3. It’s all that matters in a failed economy. See my rant which follows: Here’s the deal. We can look at real examples of failed economies. Take New Orleans after Hurricane Katrina as an example. First of all, if you could get to your gold, I doubt you could have bought much with it. On the other hand, you could trade anything for a bottle of water or gallon of gasoline.

In the event of a zombie apocalypse, gold is not very useful. What matters in that environment? Guns. Water. Food.

9. Get Enough Sleep.

It’s true. Getting enough sleep will help you make clearer daily decisions (which add up to big consequences), and help maintain your willpower, which is vital to sticking to a plan, budget and maintaining an appetite for risk.

In fact Jimmy Wales (on Quora) has often advised others to get enough sleep.

Sleeping is worth the time. Do it.

10. If You Don’t Understand it, Don’t Do It.

This is simple, but true. You need to understand why you are doing something to do it properly.

This cuts both ways, though! There are many things in life that require you to wrestle with the knowledge in order to reap the rewards. In finance, knowledge really is power. The more you know and understand, the more you can leverage that knowledge into resources. Resources get things done.

Just because you don’t understand it, doesn’t mean it is scary or evil or terrible. It does mean that you shouldn’t do it until your learn it.

So learn all you can, then you can do more.

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Reasons You’re Single Even Though You’re A Catch

You’re awesome but you’re single. What are you doing wrong? Absolutely nothing. Here are 12 reasons you’re single even though you’re a catch.

1. YOU DON’T BELIEVE IN SETTLING.

You know what type of people settle? The ones who think they’re running out of time to find something real and those who think true love isn’t in the cards for them. However, that’s not the case for you. You know he’s out there and you’re not settling for anything less.

2. YOU’RE WAITING TO MEET SOMEONE WORTHY OF YOUR AWESOMENESS.

You’re amazing, so why would you even bother being with someone who doesn’t equal you in that? I mean, seriously. It’ll totally be worth the wait.

3. YOU DON’T NEED A MAN TO VALIDATE YOUR EXISTENCE.

You might think it’d be nice to have a partner in crime sometimes, but you certainly don’t spend all your time pining after a guy – and you don’t feel bad about it, either. Instead, you live your life and don’t let it revolve around finding someone.

4. YOU’RE TOO BUSY LIVING YOUR LIFE.You have trips to take, people to meet, projects to tackle, and you have a goal to go to 30 countries before you turn 30. Your schedule is pretty damn packed.

5. YOU’RE FOCUSED ON YOUR CAREER.

It may sound like some sort of copout or a cliché, but this is 2015. What woman isn’t focused on her career to some degree? You love what you do and you’re good at it. That’s worth being proud of, for sure.

6. YOU’VE GOT GREAT FRIENDS TO DISTRACT YOU FROM ROMANCE.

Once you get a boyfriend, the time you spend with your friends is immediately cut in half. Boyfriends are great and all, but friends are a whole other level of great.

7. GUYS AREN’T AS INTO COMMITMENT AS THEY ONCE WERE.

We live in a culture where hooking up seems to take precedence over serious relationships. While hooking up is fun and one-night stands are a blast, it’s hard to find commitment in a sea of men who just aren’t into it. In this particular case, your singleness is totally out of your control.

8. YOUR CONFIDENCE IS REALLY INTIMIDATING.

It’s true! Even the cockiest of men will second guess themselves before even daring to approach a woman of your caliber.

9. YOU NEED TO FOCUS ON YOU FIRST.

Before you can share your life with someone else, you first need to know who you are, what you want, and in what direction you’re headed. It’s not fair to offer only half of yourself to someone when you’re still not completely whole.

10. YOU DON’T REALLY HAVE TIME TO MEET PEOPLE.

You didn’t even have time to eat lunch today, let alone set up an online dating profile. In fact, you’re not even sure you have time to swipe more than once or twice on Tinder.

11. YOU’RE TOO IN LOVE WITH SINGLE LIFE.

When your life is perfect already, it’s hard to want to bring someone else into the mix. While you may want a boyfriend, there’s the fact that having one will change the life you’ve made for yourself. There’s nothing wrong with change, but it’s also something you need to do on your own time.

12. YOU’RE NOT READY.

So why push something you’re not 100% about it yet?

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Signs You’re Ready To Date Again After A Bad Breakup

Not sure if you’re ready to get out there and meet someone new? Here’s a few things you need to be able to say “yes” to before you’re ready to date again.

1. You want to date for the right reasons

Once you’re no longer looking for rebounds or trying to make your ex jealous, then you are quite ready. You’re not trying to fill a void left behind by the breakup. Instead, you’re dating because you’re ready to move on and meet new people.

2. You have done a logical introspection

If you’re still blaming your ex for everything that went wrong in your relationship, you’re not ready to date yet. Part of moving on is being able to own up to your own personal BS and mistakes – even if that mistake was dating your ex in the first place.

3. Your anger is gone

You’re perfectly entitled to feel angry as hell after a breakup. Allow yourself to feel all the feelings – even the ugly ones that make you want to throw stuff against the wall. You need to process all the crappy emotional stuff or you’re going to carry all these negative feelings into your next relationship.

4. You took your time

If you took your time and healed completely before deciding to have a go at love again, you are doing just right.

5. You are fine with being alone

Being single does not faze you, and being in a relationship  is just something that happened in the natural course.  It wasn’t forced, neither was it chased as a way if forgetting your anger and misery.

6. YOU’VE REACHED THE POINT WHERE YOU’RE NO LONGER CONSTANTLY TALKING OR THINKING ABOUT YOUR EX. This is a big one. It’s totally normal to think about your ex and want to talk about the break up after it happens. The healing process after a breakup isn’t complete until you’ve had a chance to air all of your grievances and vent until you’re blue in the face. No one wants to date the person who is still obsessed with their ex. Take time to process the breakup. When you’re ready to date again you’ll be able to leave your past relationship where it belongs: in the past.

7. YOU’VE DONE SOMETHING REALLY NICE FOR YOURSELF.  Your heart was broken, you deserve some self-love and to indulge a little. Whether that involves treating yourself to a massage, that tattoo you’ve been saving for or just taking some time out to chill,  you need to give this gift to yourself before you start dating again – if only to remind yourself that you’re 100% worth it.

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How to be an amazing partner to your pregnant wife.

Guys, here are 10 ways to be extra-sweet when your wife or girlfriend is pregnant with your child.

At some point of that sweet romantic journey with the love of your life, she’s going to get pregnant with your child, and you’d have to not just be there for her, you need to be spectacular at it.

Here are ways to be a fantastic boyfriend or husband in the course of your partner’s pregnancy.

1. Be there

This is what your babe needs most – you.

There is no better way to support your partner during pregnancy than to be there. And not only are you to be there for her physically, but emotionally as well.

Go with her to as many antenatal checkups as you can, and make sure you are there for the ultrasound scans.

2. Be strong for her

Really, growing a baby is exhausting and now that she’s pregnant there are many ways you can help her out and make life easier for her.

The best place to start is around the home. Take on a few extra chores so that your partner can get some much-needed sleep without the house falling into disarray.

Pregnancy takes its toll on her energy levels.

3. Be understanding

She might be feeling too nauseous to even touch the food she was craving so badly just an hour ago. She may also be too tired to go to that party, or too desperate for the bathroom to stop crying on the motorway.

As her hormones wreak havoc on her body and mind, you may find that she gets upset about inconsequential things. Give her a break. Pregnancy has its fair share of ups and downs, but you can make it much easier by cutting her a little slack.

4. Tell her she’s beautiful

Her body will go through changes. Stretch marks, swollen feet, weight gain, and all that stuff.

While she won’t be feeling much like her old self, it is your responsibility to always remind her that she’s gorgeous, especially when she really puts in effort to look so.

Compliment her on her bump, and make sure she knows just how much you love her.

It’s a major key.

5. Massages

She’ll be needing a lot of this in that period. Whether it’s foot rubs, lower back rubs or all over body massages she wants, now is the time to be not just a husband, but also an a-grade masseuse.

6. Pregnant sex

This is even medically advisable and you should absolutely do.

There’s a tact to it however, and you should pay attention to it as much as you want to be careful to not hurt her.

7. Prioritise her

Whether or not she’s preggers, you’d need this in your relationship with your special woman.

Now that she’s pregnant, however, it becomes triple important that your priority is her and the well-being of the baby in growing inside her… your baby.

There’ll be days of ridiculous cravings at awkward times, mood swings and whatnot. Be prepared to be there through all of that.

8. Be extra sensitive

During pregnancy, women’s senses are heightened so you have to be extra sensitive too.

9. Create some memories

Modern relationships are rife with pregnancy shoots and beautiful memories created before the unwrapping of the bundle of joy.

So when your babe says it’s time for the pregnancy shoot, don’t shoot down the idea and don’t make yourself scarce as well.

10. Look after her

In summation, just look after your woman, whatever her peculiar pregnancy routine is.

Different women go through pregnancy in different ways and you need to be willing and ready to help your babe through hers in a special way that’s tailor-suited for her personal 9-month journey.

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All the struggles of getting into a celibate relationship after leaving a sexual one

Here are 5 struggles you should expect when moving into a celibate relationship after a sexual one.

You may ask yourself why someone who was in sexual relationship would even agree to go into another one and decide to be celibate against his or her ‘real wish’.

The answer to that is that sometimes, people often make rash decisions that they’d later discover that they can’t go through with.

So don’t be surprised that there are people who would enter into clearly sexless relationships and then turn around and start demanding sex midway through the relationship.

Whether it was a well-thought decision or not, however, here are struggles you should expect when moving into a celibate relationship after a sexual one.

1. The switch is never easy

Theoretically, you could be prepared for the change from that previous relationship to a life of love without sex.

Afterall, what could be difficult in loving your partner with all your heart without laying  finger on them sexually? Nothing  right?

Well, it’s usually not that easy.

2. More masturbation

Whether you are a man or woman, you may find yourself trying to relieve that sexual tension by yourself. Having sex for a while and then trying to stop never really comes easy and self-pleasuring could be your way of getting off during that difficult period before you become completely weaned off sex.

For some people the masturbation never really stops.

3. Tempted to cheat

Also the temptation to cheat may be overpowering sometimes [or many times]. Afterall, your partner trusts you completely and would allow you go for a sleep over at your friend’s place.

What he/she doesn’t know is that you once had great sex with your friend’s neighbor who has since been begging for a rematch.

Now that you are horny and there’s no chance of getting it with your partner, the temptation is very strong to give in to one more night with him/her.

Afterall no one will tell your boyfriend, right?

4. Unknowingly pressuring your partner

You may find yourself putting pressure on your partner without even knowing it. Your make out sessions  have clearly been limited to kisses and a few touch here and there but you may find yourself testing, pushing all those limits everytime you make out with your partner.

If only your partner wasn’t just so firm with their stand on the no-sex policy, you know what would have happened

5. Don’t enter relationships you can’t cope with

It is important at all times to date at your level. Always be equally-yoked with your partner. You want sex, date someone who wants sex. Don’t squeeze yourself into a relationship and get stuck in uncomfortable situations.

Relationships are to be enjoyed, not endured.

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