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    kaylar wrote a new post, Keep on Using Me, til You Use me Up 7 years, 3 months ago

    We’ve all met people who are users.  Pure blooded,  focused, Users.  They always want a favour, they always have some ‘help’ they need from you.

    In some cases, the better users  ‘pay’ for  your use because th […]

    • Users man there everywhere. And it always seems like the sweetest people who try to get over on you. In my case anyways. I don’t like having a grudge or feel hate in my heart so I try to think positive. But boy I tell you that’s hard to do when you have people trying to get over you all the time. If there’s one think I’d dislike it would be getting used. It builds up so much anger and me. Alot of times itll be your own family. WHY : because they know you do anything to help your family. Sometimes you have no choice but to put your foot down let them know what it is and what it ain’t going to be.life can already get tough and complicated as it is so who has time for people like that.
      Now don’t get me wrong there’s always a select few who you can help because you know they have your back just as well as you got there’s. And you can tell the difference between users and helpers. Helpers will be there when you need them and you be there when they need you. That’s real friendship. Users stand out so easily, they only call when they want something,not just to say hi. So I’ll answer whenever I feel like talking to them.dont never wanna stop by just to check in and say hey. They sure will come over though when they need something.theyll never stop it unless you put your foot down. yeah I know your thinking to yourself that you got a good heart but don’t let others run over you because of it. It’ll just make things complicated for you,give you feelings you don’t want to have.

      • That is exactly the point. It is not just being used, it is those negative feelings that it produces which I don’t want inside of me. I don’t want to feel that kind of hurt and anger so I have to be ‘pro-active’ in a sense. As soon as I begin to feel a little bit used, I get scarce, I get ‘useless’… not because I am not the kind to help… I don’t want to feel the resentment of being used.

    • Talk about users this are people who exist everywhere in our world. They are known because they don’t even try to hide their bad behavior. I have dealt with some people like this over and over and i have oftenly asked why I get involved with such people. I remember very well helping out some friend who had a hard time with stuff. I willingly helped but what I got in return was mind boggling. I could not imagine that that person would have done what they did. I was so used to the point of even borrowing, but after I found out what my friend was up to I pulled away from our friendship completely. And that’s when I realized that i was just being used, but even after doing all those bad things to me, my friend did not have a very good life afterwards. Things just did not work and i thought we’ll that must be your punishment for wasting my time and money.

      • I have become alert to being used. People will call ask me to come to their office to do free work. I usually don’t argue, but call back and say I can’t and suggest meeting at a hotel. This means, of course, no matter how it plays, I’m getting at least a cup of coffee. This is so beyond their user personality they will never agree.

        So, beyond wasting a few minutes on the phone, that’s all my investment.

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    enifome wrote a new post, Women do Not Sleep in the Quest to Have the Ideal Home 7 years, 3 months ago

    I can still remember vividly,my mother yelling one morning. Apparently, She came downstairs and met dirty dishes in the kitchen and was upset. My mind often takes a trip to that day frequently now that i am a […]

    • Well said.women are indeed gems it’s just sad that some men just don’t see yet. A woman is the real picture of a home. This are beings that never take rest no matter what. Some people may think that a house wife is the laziest person ever. But when you get to sit down and just watch a woman run her day you will be surprised that during that while day of 24 hours she will be in her feet most of the day. If I am to write a summary of how a woman’s day looks like an sure there are some people who will wonder how one person can do all those things and still afford to smile at the end of the day. It is no easy job but a woman’s got to do what she’s got to do otherwise there won’t be a household anymore.