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July 7, 2016 at 10:23 pm

For a family bonding that is firm and strong with a bread winner who is strict and serves justice; indeed blood is thicker than water.

 

However for my in laws; i guess water is thicker than blood.

When my hubby and i were out of jobs; his parents and siblings avoided us as far as possible and looked down on us.

They never offer any help or words of comfort.

 

Instead they dispised us, gossiped and ignored us when we met.

 

This is due to the parents itself who had not taught children about family bonding, love and trust.

 

Hence, this phrase doesn’t fit here at all.

Such a shame

July 7, 2016 at 10:55 pm

It seems you are hurt @ peachpurple Don’t worry. Close ones always have a right on us, and they may turn sentimental. During our bad times, they are the ones who are to support us most.

July 8, 2016 at 5:12 am

@peachpurple In some point in our lives, familial people should always be there to support the members of the bloodline. But, it wasn’t all the case. My father’s siblings were not supportive to us. The real colors are more distinct when my father died 2 years ago. There are no signs of respect and shows were not belong to the family. My mother, siblings and I stopped hoping that their treatment towards us will change. The unequal treatment made us change and think differently.

July 8, 2016 at 7:49 am

Altruism can only be found in a dictionary as more and more are self centred and that is seen more in family tie ups. You are not alone in this. I have heard many such stories around me.

July 8, 2016 at 8:21 am

The point of order: Blood is thicker that water. This is phrase is absolutely correct. For the sake of discussion, I say that something must be clarified here. You are in trouble why your in-laws are too indifferent with you. They never mind anything at all as if nothing h as been transpired among you.

Well, practically and idiomatically speaking, in-laws are not related to you by blood. They are related by affinity. Since we are talking about blood, they are not indeed. Do you get my point? Hope this would clarify matter as far as in-laws are concerned. There is no need to argue anymore.

My unsolicited advice is never to mind them. Just mind your own business. By experience in my own case, for example, my in-laws have a good if not better relationships with their friends than their fellow in-laws and that is true. Tradition tells it clearly.

 

 

July 8, 2016 at 8:57 am

http://literacybase.com/members/sandhyarani/

thanks for your kind words.

Unfortunately, I don’t see any Good people around us, especially family members who are close in blood relation.

 

Sometimes, friends are better off than family members because they help us when we are in need of help

July 8, 2016 at 8:59 am

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I am sorry about your dad.

I had read your comment just now on my other question.

That is really bad of them to treat you and your mom.

That is what happened to us too.

So, now we distance ourselves from them.

It seemed that they are curious instead of our cold treatments

July 8, 2016 at 9:01 am

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thank you. I am sure this type of story isn’t the first but if you family members relationship is firm and strong, you are blessed

July 8, 2016 at 9:06 am

http://literacybase.com/members/nakitakona13/

I understand what you are trying to say.

However, it seemed that  this phrase doesn’t fit in my family either.

Since you are right that in laws are not blood related, how about my own parents and siblings?

They treated us all the same.

When in time trouble, they distance themselves from us, did not offer any help or words of concern.

If they can’t help, at least words of comfort should be sufficient than not caring at all right?

So why are own family members worst than friends?

When we were out of job, it were our old customers that had helped us out by offering jobs and giving us advice what to do next.

 

Now isn’t that water thicker than blood itself?

Just my thoughts although the phrase blood is thicker than water is true

July 8, 2016 at 10:17 am

As @ nakitakona13 told, we can’t expect the same thing from our in-laws like our parents or siblings, and we may not get support from our spouse even if we are 100% right. They are not our blood relations. In-laws want to dominate on new members of the family, and for the same reason their ego will hurt if they support their daughter-in-laws. @peachpurple please believe in God and remain patient, every dark cloud has a silver lining.

July 8, 2016 at 10:30 am

@peachpurple  In our family they believe in “Each for themselves and God for everyone” (lol) There was a time when we were living under the same roof there was so much of unity and love for each other. Now that everyone has separate lives having got married with kids and a husband very little interaction exists between siblings.  But no one has damaged anyone in terms of material gains but emotionally yes.

July 12, 2016 at 12:39 am

I for one don’t think blood is thicker than water I have friends that are closer than family and would be there for me before my family would be. I don’t believe that just because your family your always going to be there for one another, hasn’t work out that way in my life, any one can become “family” I see people use the were family so we stick together saying a lot just to disrespect people all the time. I’m sorry family or not if you do me or my kids wrong your cut off and the bridge will be burnt forever.

June 4, 2017 at 6:48 am

Yes, I do believe blood is thicker then water but sometimes water is thicker then blood but its only becuz your family can be assholes and treat like u don’t mean anything. I am going thru that phase but I don’t care becuz what don’t kill it’ll make me stronger in da long run.