Don’t be a doormat or let people use you.

You consider yourself a trustworthy friend, loyal and dependable. You try your best to be helpful and generous to the friends you make. You invest much time and effort in a friendship. You’re always around to listen. Because of this, you’re the person your friends run to during times of crisis. You eventually become the one individual who is always there to help.

But occasionally, you meet a friend who is incapable of reciprocating.

You may encounter someone who will only look for you when you’re needed. But when you’re the one in need, this friend will offer some convenient excuse not to be there. There is always something more important than you. You are never a priority. And even when you’re together, your friend constantly insists on getting his way. You’re forced to follow whatever your friend wants and you give whatever he needs. Your wishes remain secondary.

Despite this, you continue to hope that this friend will realize how well you treat him and that he should give some time and effort back. But this friend never does. In the end, you eventually feel drained. And when your usefulness to this friend has run out, you may find yourself discarded and forgotten.

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Sometimes the desire to feel accepted makes a person vulnerable to abuse. This is especially the case with lonely individuals. Opportunistic people will see this weakness and may come to exploit it. If you feel you have friends who only seek you out when they need you, maybe it is time to rethink these so-called friendships. Otherwise, you may eventually end up a discarded doormat.

Ive been there before with a friend who becane my room mate only to not pay rent and wind up stealing from me.

I moved in with my sister but she charged me an absurd amount of rent.




  • Sherry Kinman

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    • This is an eye opener indeed i have also experienced such friends note not friemd but friends thats just how much i can be caring and still be kicked on my behind(for lack of a better word.) This people are wveryqhere and they can be really annoying when you finally drop them down and walk on ahead.
      Let me give an account of a friemd that was very close. We started off pretty well, doing stuff together going places and just hanging out. Until one day all hell broke loose and i had to step in to save the situation. I offered my house as a temporary place to stay while they sorted themselves out. I bought the food and did literally everything coz at the time her job was also at risk. She was really nuce helped around the house most of the time and i appreciated it. But somewhere down the line things started changing, going out all the time, travels became an everyday thing and whenever i asked her she would be very skeptical to talk about it, so i didn't bother much. Thats when things started unfolding and the arrogance set in, she became rude and defensive all the time. So i got to a point and told her what was on my mind and she left my house never saying thank you. I came to realize that she had met a new guy and the guy was doing stuff for her, all the travels were being paid by the guy and thats why my hospitality became a thing of the past. She was only using my home so that she could save up money and go back to her house fully loaded i was so mad when i was told what she was doing. Its very unfortunate that er have such people in our lives people who don't value friendships people who are just out to better themselves at the expense of others.

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