When you want to get to know someone better it can be hard to get past the normal everyday questions that everyone asks. That’s why I’ve put together this list of personal questions to ask a guy. They are great for when you’ve got a guy who you want to get to know on a deeper level.
There are a wide variety of questions on a lot of different topics. You can pick and choose which ones you think will work for the particular guy or choose ones that you just really want to know the answers to. There are a lot of great questions on this site that you can branch off into if you want even more questions.
There are enough questions to give you a decent amount to choose from without being overwhelming. Remember when you are asking the questions to encourage him to give more details if possible.
Personal questions to ask a guy list
Do you prefer to spend more time with your SO, family, or friends? Why?
What activity calms you down and makes you feel at peace with the world?
How often do you feel overwhelmed?
If you see a homeless person asking for money, do you give them any?
What will immediately disqualify a potential SO?
How adventurous are you? Give some examples.
Who do you want to be more like?
Do you think any part of your personality needs to be improved? If so, which part and why?
Which aspect of your life is going really well right now and which aspect could you use some help with?
How politically involved are you?
When was the last time you really panicked?
Where do you go when you want to be alone?
What chokes you up when you think about it?
What was the most awkward conversation you ever had with someone?
What holidays did your family really go all out for when you were growing up?
Would you rather spend the day at an art, history, or science museum?
What seemed normal in your family when you were growing up, but seems weird now?
What’s your favorite scene in a movie?
What is a controversial opinion do you have?
What fact do you try to ignore?
Who in your life always stresses you out and who do you rely on to help you calm down?
When you want to get to know someone better it can be hard to get past the normal everyday questions that everyone asks. That’s why I’ve put together this list of personal questions to ask a guy. They are great for when you’ve got a guy who you want to get to know on a deeper level.
They say women have a knack for intuition, but when it comes to their love interest they do get blinded.
It is quite common for some women to get into abusive relationships mostly because they are low on self esteem or in need of approval, they fail to see that their boyfriend or partner does not really care for them.
As a girl, even when you know intuitively that a man is using you for his pleasure, and is clearly not in love with you nor interested in a commitment, you still want to live a lie.
When a guy is using you, it means the relationship is abusive and not conducive. However much you want the guy to be different, he is not going to change, so it’s in your best interest to move out of the relationship.
But how do you know when a man is using you? That’s what this article is about.
Signs a Guy is Using You
Just because you are in love with a man does not necessarily mean that he is also in love with you.
A relationship of one-sided love is always abusive towards the person who is in love. There’s lot of truth to this statement – “The one who cares less in a relationship, dominates it”.
But this is not about whether the guy loves you less or more, it’s about, does he care at all? or is he just using you? So if you are wondering how to know that for sure, here are the signs to look out for:
1.) He Never Bonds With You Emotionally
The depth in any relationship develops through the emotional attraction the couple feels.
A relationship devoid of any emotional bonding is empty to the core and is likely to be an abusive one. If your man is hardly bothered about bonding with you emotionally, it means he does not care for you.
Do you share your problems, worries, concerns and moments of joy? Do you feel that he’s there to stand by you when you are feeling low or alone? These are some hard questions that will point the emotional depth in the relationship.
2.) He Pressurizes You to Get His Wants Met
If he’s only interested in getting his wants and needs met in the relationship then you know the guy is using you for his pleasure.
Many men would pressurize their partner to meet their needs for sex and that’s all they are interested in. If you feel that he’s applying pressure on you either through emotional manipulation or through physical threats, he is clearly being abusive.
Guys who have been in several relationships get the hang of how to manipulate girls into giving into their demands.
3.) He is Only Concerned About Physical Pleasure
Physical intimacy is an integral part of an relationship between a man and woman but how does he approach intimacy?
Is he concerned about your needs and pleasures while having sex or is he just being plain selfish during the whole act?
Women give into pleasuring their man to avoid any friction in the relationship and several guys use this emotional handle to manipulate them.
If you intuitively feel that he is manipulating you for sex then it should be clear that he has no emotional investment in the relationship. This is when you know a man is using you.
4.) He is Leeching on Your Money
Some guys enter into a relationship purely for their monetary benefit and they try to milk the most out of it.
Many women are so blinded in their love that they fail to see that he is leeching on her money and other assets.
If he uses your credit cards, keeps asking you to lend him money, makes you take a loan for him or gets you into financial trouble, then you know he is using you purely for monetary interest.
A financially abusive relationship is most common these days with women becoming easy targets to playboys and manipulative men .
5.) Your Friends Warn you About Him
Just because you are blinded in your attraction to him does not mean your friends can’t see him for who he is.
If any of your friends or relatives advises you to keep away from him then you should be on the alert. It’s of course true that your friends or family members can’t judge him as well as you can, but if they sense something awry then you should at least keep an open mind and see if it’s true.
It’s not difficult to know when a man is using you but most women do get unsighted because of their love. Get in touch with your intuition because that’s your best guide.
Not everyone throws bouquets and cut cakes, other cultures have different ways to go about celebrating the big day.
Weddings may be celebrated worldwide but traditions vary depending on culture » and country.
Not everyone throws bouquets and cut cakes, other cultures have different ways » to go about celebrating the big day.
1. Shooting the bride, China
In China’s Yugur culture, grooms shoot their future brides with a bow and arrow three times. The groom then breaks the arrows to ensure the couple stay in love forever.
2. Fat farms, Mauritania
In Mauritania, girls aged between five and 15 are sent to “fat farms” before their wedding to gain some weight. If a bride had stomach rolls, stretch marks and overlapping thighs, it signalled her husband was wealthy enough to keep her satisfied.
3. Blackening of the bride, Scotland
Scottish brides-to-be are taken by surprise by their friends ahead of the big day, and stoned with all sorts of rubbish such as bad milk, dead fish, spoiled food, tar and feathers. She is then tied to a tree. The belief is that if she can withstand this kind of treatment, she can handle anything that comes her way in her marriage.
4. Marrying a tree, India
In parts of India women born as Mangliks (an astrological combination when Mars and Saturn are both under the 7th house), are said to be “cursed” and thought to cause their husband an early death. In order to counter this, they must first be married to a tree and the tree cut down to break the curse.
5. Drinking from the toilet, France
Newlyweds in France are forced to drink leftovers from their wedding out of a toilet bowl.
Nowadays, chocolate and champagne are used as a substitute, but still served out of a toilet. The idea was to give the bride and groom strength before their wedding
How do you know you found your soulmate? If you’ve dated someone special, but you’re still not sure if he’s the one, then stop trying to overanalyse things, because things will just happen naturally. You can’t force the pace of love and you can’t make someone love you, but, often, Mr Right is standing right in front of your eyes, you just haven’t realised it yet. Here are ten things that will just happen naturally, if you have found your Mr Right.
1. Silence isn’t a problem
When you are with Mr Right there is no such thing as an awkward silence, but there could well be comfortable ones. Neither of you will feel that there is a need, anymore, to fill pauses in conversation with unnecessary words, you are perfectly happy just being together.
2. You share your innermost secrets with him
When you find yourself thinking: ‘Hey, I never told anyone that before’, then that is a sign that you have found Mr Right. Then you know that you have found someone that you can trust implicitly and you are happy sharing anything with them.
3. He knows and understands you better than anyone else
Mr Right, will be the guy that not only knows you, he understands you very well too. Not only will he know what your favourite foods are and the places you like to go, but he will also instinctively know and feel when you are unhappy, and he will want to do something to fix that.
4. You can be yourself around him
You can relax around your Mr Right and you won’t feel the need to play act, or even look your best all the time for him. You won’t be horrified, when you wake up to a bad hair day anymore, because you know that he loves you, for who you are.
5. You feel safe and secure next to him
You don’t doubt this guy at all. You are more than happy to show your vulnerable side to him and you are confident that he will care for you and protect you. The ideal relationship is one where both sides feel loved and protected and they know that their partner would never harm them or hurt their feelings, in any way at all.
6. He makes you feel like a better person
Mr Right motivates you to be the best that you can possibly be. He wants to you to succeed and he wants you to be happy. When he’s around, it makes you try even harder to be a better person, because he makes you feel good about yourself and supports you in all your endeavors.
7. You are a priority in his life
When things are just right, you will know, because he will start making you his number one priority. He will never let you down and you will always come first. You will also be included in his plans for the future and he will ask what your dreams and goals are too.
8. He doesn’t play games with your heart
You will know exactly where you are with Mr Right and there won’t be any games being played. He will turn up when he says he will, he won’t fool around, and you will know that he will always keep his word. Things will be all very straight forward and honest between you.
9. He makes you feel like a lady
The perfect guy for you will also be one who knows how to treat you like a lady. He will make you feel special and he will always treat you with the utmost respect. Each man does this in their own way, but you will know it, when you see it!
10. You are happy!
The biggest sign of all, that you have found your Mr Right, is that you will find that you are happy all the time. Whatever may happen to bring you down, you don’t really care anymore, because later in the day you are going to be with him. When you find a man who can chase away your blues, then you know that you have found The One who is right for you.
The rules for dating constantly evolve. What worked for your parents may not work for you, and what works for you may not work for future generations. Setting ground rules for your own dating life will keep your emotions in check, and may even increase your chances of finding a suitable partner.
If following rules while playing the dating game seems stifling to you, instead consider the rules to be a protective measure. “Dating can be very emotional,” says Sherrie Schneider, co-author of
The Rules♂series of dating advice books. “Women can operate with their heart instead of their head.” Following dating rules help you set and maintain your own standards and make sure you don’t allow your emotions to overrule your common sense.
1. Give Men a Challenge
Gender roles aren’t what they used to be, but that doesn’t mean that men don’t still love the thrill of the hunt. According to Schneider, it’s particularly important to allow men the ability to pursue you in this modern age of technology. “If I can reach you on Facebook, can text you or tweet you – there’s no mystery. There’s no courtship. It’s just instant hook-ups and contact and everything’s last minute,” says Schneider. “Men love a challenge. They like risk whereas women like security. Don’t contact a guy first. Don’t friend him on Facebook, don’t text him first and don’t initiate anything. Once a guy knows you’re interested by initiating conversation, it kind of throws the whole chase off.”
Schneider cautions women to not be so accessible. “Women are texting guys in the middle of the night, back and forth for hours, and they’re not getting dates. They’re just becoming friends or friends with benefits.”
2. Be Charming
Technology may also be changing the way people interact with one another in person, allowing manners and graciousness to fall by the wayside. Popular online dating website eHarmony ♂urges daters to remember to be charming when meeting in person, as this has an incredibly positive impact on face-to-face interactions.
Match.com ♂agrees. Not fidgeting with your phone during a date, giving full attention to the other person, and being nice to your server will leave a lasting impression on your date and will help make you both feel more at ease.
3. Protect Yourself
Use common sense when dating and think twice before allowing yourself a romantic encounter on a whim. Schneider suggests waiting for sexual encounters for as long as possible, and only after you’re in a committed relationship. “The stakes are higher now,” cautions Schneider. “It’s not just pregnancy; technology has gotten to the point to where nothing is private. You might wind up being recorded and having your sexual behavior put on YouTube.”
Schneider discourages sex without a commitment. “Don’t make booty calls, and don’t do one night stands,” she says.
4. Read Between the Lines when Dating Online
Some men make a habit of contacting several women through online dating profiles, but never ask for an actual date. Instead, they simply keep communicating instead of trying to meet in person. “Guys that don’t ask you out are either in other relationships or they just aren’t available for whatever reason,” says Schneider. “If he hasn’t asked you out in four emails, he’s in a fantasy relationship.”
If online conversations never seem to evolve into a plan to meet each other in person, it may be best to move on. Says Schneider, “The way to weed them out is this: are they asking you out? Are their emails generic? Some guys send form emails.” If your conversations seem as though the relationship isn’t going anywhere, it’s probably time to end the communication.
5. Don’t Reveal Too Much Too Soon
It’s a fine line between being secretive and revealing too much while dating. It’s best to lean toward brevity when it comes to talking about why your last relationship ended. “If you’re divorced, don’t talk about your divorce,” advises Schneider. “Don’t go into details. Nobody wants to hear sob stories.”
AskMen.com♂agrees with this advice and warns men that revealing too much about an ex may result in jealousy issues down the road. Speaking badly about your ex might also make you appear bitter, which is not the best trait to present when dating.
6. Move On
How long should you wait to start dating when a relationship ends? According to Schneider, you should start dating immediately. “You can’t move fast enough,” says Schneider. “Many women are encouraged to grieve, and take time off to think about how they feel, but the clock is ticking. The best way to get over a guy is to meet another guy.”
On the other hand, some dating experts♂caution that moving too soon after a breakup will inevitably result in a rebound relationship. Examine your feelings, and decide when you are ready to start dating again, but don’t wait too long.
7. Don’t Exclude Male Friends
Try not to overlook the male friends within your social circle as potential dates.
Cosmopolitan♂says that male friends are actually good candidates for a romantic relationship because there is a good chance that they have already seen all sides of you. This minimizes the potential for feeling awkward while trying to get to know someone new.
Relationship website YourTango♂agrees. You already know and respect each other; as long as there is an attraction present, there is no reason why your guy friend may not someday be your love interest.
8. Parents Should Date
“Women with kids feel they shouldn’t date because their kids are young,” says Schneider. “You should date. The best thing you can do for your child is to have a life. Don’t use having kids as an excuse to not date.”
The key to dating while also being a parent is to not expose your kids to an entourage of suitors. “In terms of protecting the children, your child should not meet every guy you’re dating,” says Schneider. “You should be very protective. You should only introduce them to guys with whom you are serious.” She also cautions against posting photos of your children online if you use dating websites or social media to meet men.
9. Don’t Be Too Eager
It can be easy in the beginning stages of a relationship to want to spend all your free time with your new love interest, but displaying too much eagerness can scare a guy off. “Guys get scared by intensity. Women are wired to be friendly and chatty, and you start showing up at his house unannounced or calling him for no reason, he’ll start feeling scared. It’s too much,” says Schneider.
Life Coach Demetria Lucas♂adds that if men seem uncommunicative, particularly when a woman has been extra-communicative, this may be a good indicator that he’s been scared off.
10. Listen to Your Gut
Sometimes a date might just feel “off” despite everything appearing to be perfect or a person may simply give you a strange vibe even though they seem outwardly “perfect.” Listen to your intuition,
says eHarmony♂ . Trust your instincts in both face-to-face dating and online dating.
Set the Rules
It’s likely that you have other rules that you want to follow while dating based on your own cultural, spiritual or moral beliefs. Set your rules and stick with them; this way, you can trust that your emotions won’t take over and compel you to make rash decisions that may not be in your best interest.
Actions may speak louder than words, but words can express so many things that actions can’t!
Letters are a personalized way to show your love for someone in the simplest way. A letter allows you to express your innermost feelings, and creating one that’s written by hand only makes the sentiment even sweeter.
Below are a handful of sweet, touching letters you can write for your girl. While we don’t exactly want you to copy each one verbatim, we hope that these letters inspire you to create your own letter that perfectly captures what you’re feeling.
To Brighten Up Her Morning
I know it’s early in the morning, and you must be really grumpy. But I just wanted to let you know that you were the last thing on my mind last night and now you’re the first one to fill my thoughts this morning. Every day is like a blessing because I know that I get to wake up knowing you’re mine. I hope you have a great day. Don’t forget to skip breakfast and grab a cup of coffee. I know how much you love a cup of Joe each morning!
I love you.
While She’s Working Hard at Her Job
I hope I’m not disturbing you at work. I know how hard you’re working at your job. I appreciate how much you love what you do because it just goes to show how motivated you are to achieve your goals. Remember not to tire yourself out too much. I know you’re a smart and capable woman whom your coworkers can rely on to get the job done. I’m so proud of you, babe! Keep it up, and I’ll see you later.
While She’s Out with Her Friends
I hope you’re having fun with your friends. I know how much they mean to you, and I know that they love having you around as well. I can’t blame them because you’re an absolutely gorgeous and wonderful person to be with. That’s why I’m so glad to call you mine. I’ll keep this short and simple so you can go back to chatting with your friends. Just remember to stay safe and to call me if you need anything. I love you, take care.
For Before She Goes to Bed
I bet you just want to crash onto your bed and fall into a deep slumber. But because I care a lot about you, I just thought I’d give you a few reminders before you do that. Remember to wash your face before you head off to bed. I know how much you hate having breakouts, and not washing your face is surefire way to get them! Also, don’t forget to brush your teeth, because without healthy teeth you won’t get to flash that sweet smile that gets you everything you want. And lastly, have a glass of water before bed to keep you hydrated. I want you to stay as healthy as possible because I can’t stand to see you feeling under the weather. So good night, and I hope you know I’ll be dreaming about you.
For when She’s Out of Town
Having you out of town is one of the hardest things to experience. I simply can’t stand to be so many miles away from you. While you’re out there, remember that I’m always thinking about you. And as much as I hope I could be with you right now, I know that you have commitments you have to attend to. So while you’re away, all I can do is wait for you to come back. Don’t worry though, because I’ll make sure I’ll make up for all the time we didn’t get to spend together. Keep in mind that every day that I look forward to each new day, because that means it’s one day closer to when I’ll have you back in my arms again.
Distance can’t come between our love, no matter where you are. So whenever you’re feeling a little lonely or homesick, I’m just one call away. And if you can’t stand another day without me by your side, baby, I’ll find some way to get to you as soon as I can.
For when She’s Feeling Down
I know you’re going through a difficult time right now, and I can’t even imagine what it’s like for you. While I may not be able to solve your problems, I promise that I’ll always be here when you need a shoulder to cry on. Nothing shatters my world like knowing you’re feeling down. My greatest joy is to see you happy, because you’re the light of my life, my sun and stars. And seeing you so sad breaks my heart. So when you need something from me – anything from doing chores to driving you around to running errands for you – just say the word and I’ll do it for you.
Cheer up babe, try to stay positive even if it’s hard. And if you need someone to help you make it through, to help you vent or cry it out, that person is me. I’ll always be here for you, through thick and thin, through good times and bad times.
For when She’s Stressed
To the most beautiful girl in the world even when she’s stressed out,
This is your man reminding you that there is always, always, always time to unwind and clear your mind. You may feel like your overwhelmed with balancing all the things in your life, but I believe in your ability to make it through. I want to help you out because nothing gets me down worse than seeing you so stressed out. So just say the word and I’ll carry some of the burden for you. Need help with chores? I’m your guy. Need help running some errands? Count on me. Need a relaxing foot massage at the end of each day? You know I’ll do that for you.
I love you so much, and I just want you to know that you can count on me for anything.
For When You’re Fighting
I know you’re mad at me right now, and maybe I’m a little angry at you too. But that doesn’t mean I don’t love you, because it will take more than just a fight to make me stop loving you. So for now, all I want to say is that I’m sorry for all the hurtful things I said and did. I was out of line, and I really wish I never did those things. It may take a while for you to forgive me, and that’s okay. I’ll spend all my time and effort trying to make it up to you.
And in turn, I hope we can learn from this. Couples only get stronger each time they fight, and I hope this is the case for us too. Let’s take this as an opportunity to build a better relationship. Let’s take this as a moment to figure out our differences and find a way to compromise. I’m willing to do anything to make sure you’re happy with me, and I know you feel the same way. So even if we’re fighting now, let’s take a moment to calm ourselves down and make amends.
I can’t stand another day knowing you’re mad at me. I’m so sorry. Please, let’s make this right again.
For Your Month Anniversary
I wish we could celebrate our love for each other each and every day, but I guess that’s going to take a toll on our savings. So to celebrate our love more often, here’s a sweet letter for our month anniversary.
Another month has gone by, and I can’t believe I’m falling more and more in love with you each day. I never thought I could feel this way about a person, but here you are proving me wrong. You’re the most wonderful person on this earth, and I want to spend every waking moment showing you how much you mean to me.
There may be days when I might be a little busy or a little preoccupied. But remember that it doesn’t mean that I love you or value you any less. Because for every hour I spend at work to make money or every minute I spend at the gym trying to be healthy, that’s a little bit of investment for our future. So as our relationship flourishes each month, and as we grow together, our love only becomes stronger.
I love you. Happy month anniversary!
For Your Anniversary
To my dearest Sweetheart,
Another year has gone by like a blur. Who would have thought we’d make it this far? I remember the first day I ever laid eyes on you. You were the most beautiful girl in the room. You were so radiant that I felt like nothing else mattered. Did I ever think you’d even spend a minute of your time engaging me in conversation? Did I even think that you’d eventually go on a date with me? Did I dare to imagine being your man? Definitely not, but look at us now. So here we are, together for another year, and stronger than ever.
I hope we always stay this way – loving each other and caring for each other. Every day I’m with you feels like heaven, and I can only imagine what life would be like when we finally get to build our home and start a family together.
This past year has been filled with ups and downs, highs and lows. But at the end of the day, we know that our love for each other is stronger than anything life throws at us. Happy anniversary to the love of my life. Another year has passed and I look forward to the rest of the years we’ll get to spend together.
For Her Birthday
To the most beautiful birthday girl,
Happy birthday! I know you hate having to grow another year older, but I want you to look at the bright side. You’re another year wiser, another year stronger, and another year more beautiful.
I want to thank every force in the universe for creating the most wonderful person on earth on this very day. It seemed like the stars aligned just right to bring you into this world and to bring you into my life. I’m eternally thankful for this strange, happy coincidence.
May your birthday bring you more joy and laughter, and more challenges to make you stronger than ever. Happy birthday, sweetheart.
For Your Birthday
To the birthday boy’s amazing girlfriend,
Fun fact: the best birthday gift I can ever receive is knowing that you’re by my side. I don’t care about grand parties, expensive gifts, or drinking all night. All I care about is showing how you’ve made my birthday a million times better just by being there. Thank you, babe, for never leaving my side even if we don’t always agree on everything.
You’re the love of my life, and nothing can ever change that. Thank you for choosing to be with me. I couldn’t have asked for more in this life.
To Motivate Her to Achieve Her Goals
To the most motivated girl I know,
I know there are times when you feel like giving up and doing something easier. But I just want to remind you that I believe in your strength and your talent. You can do this, babe, I know you can. You might feel a little tired and dejected right now, but you know you can always take a quick break before springing back into action.
Your dreams are slowly becoming a reality with every day you put effort into it. You’re getting there, baby! I believe in you!
To Express Your Thankfulness for Her Presence
I just wanted to let you know how happy I am that you’re here. I am forever thankful to the universe for bringing you into my life. I’m eternally grateful to all the people who brought us together, and to all the people who tried to bring us apart only to make us stronger.
Thank you for being there for me when times were hard. Thank you for giving me space when I needed it. And thank you for being around to keep my spirits up. I can only hope to repay you for all the wonderful things you’ve done for me. I love you, and I’m so thankful for you.
For Any Day When You Feel Like Showing Your Love
I just thought I’d give you a quick note to let you know that I love you. I know that you know this, but I just thought I’d remind you anyway. You’re the most gorgeous, kind, understanding, patient person – and I don’t know what kind of miracle the universe had to pull to get you to love me as much as I love you. I hope you have a great day, babe. I’m always thinking about you.
We hope you find the perfect letter to give to your girlfriend. Whatever her mood may be or whatever the occasion is, we’re sure you’ll find the quick note that can inspire you to write a letter for her.
If you’re struggling to come up with some things to do with your partner, we’re here to help you out with 10 romantic things to do for your girlfriend. All you need to do is get your pen and notepad ready.
Write Her A Love Letter
This is one of the most romantic things to do for your girlfriend. You might think that letters are out of fashion now that we all use emails and texts to communicate. But because love letters still melt a girls’ heart, it’s time to get your pen and paper out.
A love letter is something special and meaningful, which is why girls love them so much. You can use this letter to communicate your deeper feelings, or you can simply write a quick note letting her know how much she means to you. You could also include a photograph of you both before mailing it off. She’ll treasure it forever.
Don’t forget to smother it in kiss and love hearts. Yes, we love that stuff.
Plan A Surprise
You should know by now that girls LOVE surprises. But even if you know this, you possibly haven’t made much of an effort to surprise your girlfriend very often.
Cast any issues about money aside, and splash out on something you know she will love. This could be anything from a bottle of wine after work to a weekend away somewhere together. It could even be a gesture, such as breakfast in bed.
Get In The Bath Together
Showers are sexual, but bathtubs are sensual. Getting in a warm, bubbly bath together with a glass of champagne is a perfect way to spend the evening. Have some light music playing in the background and a few candles dotted around the room and you’re onto a winner.
If you really want to push the boat out, hire a hotel for the night and order room service too. You won’t just be soaking up the water – you’ll be soaking up the love, too. Get on it.
Have A Rooftop Dinner
In the movies and on television, romantic dinners rarely go right. Either a gust of wind blows the picnic away, or a huge bird comes along and pecks someone’s head. At least it creates a memory, right?
But a rooftop dinner is incredibly romantic, no matter what happens. If you can’t get hold of a roof (and it isn’t easy!), you could use your back garden instead. Whatever you use, make sure that it’s somewhere secluded where no one can disturb you. This is for just you and your girlfriend.
Cook For Her
Another one of fabulous, romantic things to do for your girlfriend is to simply cook for her. If you haven’t cooked for your girlfriend for quite a while, it’s time to put your apron on and get into the kitchen.
Your girlfriend might be tired of cooking, and she might be stressed out from working hard. To ease the pressure on her, you should come up with a delicious recipe that brightens her day. After all, we all love being cooked for!
Just try not to set the kitchen on fire. Heroically rescuing her from flames could be romantic, but we’d rather prefer things didn’t get to this stage.
Have A Phone Call Before Bed
If you don’t live with your girlfriend, she’ll totally appreciate it and love you forever if you ring just before bed. Find out what time she usually hits the hay and give her a call. It’s thoughtful, affectionate, it shows that you care about her and it’s one of the simplest romantic things to do for your girlfriend.
Moreover, it reassures her of your love just before she says goodnight to the world once more. And if she has any worries and fears, she can tell you about them.
Give Her Your Jacket
No, we’re not talking about the chivalrous act of making sure your girlfriend is nice and warm; instead, we’re suggesting that you wear that suit she loves before giving her the jacket.
Basically, this is akin to foreplay. It’s romantic, but it’s also sensual and suggestive. It will get her in the mood.
Make Something Together
It’s one thing making her a gift on your own, and another, more romantic thing if you make something together. Teamwork between couples is hugely romantic. Not only do you get a sense of achievement at having made something, but you also bond during the process of making it.
In the film Ghost, husband and wife make a clay pot together in one of the most sensual scenes in the movies ever. They kiss and touch each other while making the pot, and basically get closer.
Pick something you both like and work on it together.
Hold Hands In Public
Holding hands in public is something that is so simple, yet many long-term couples often forget to do it. Holding hands is a sign that your love is still strong, and doing it in public shows the world that you two are strong together.
Going for a stroll in the park is incredibly romantic. Walking arm in arm brings you both together and shows that are you One against the rest.
And finally, one of simple and romantic things to do for your girlfriend is to make sacrifices for her. Sacrificing something for another person is incredibly hard to do, which is why sacrificing something for your girlfriend is incredibly romantic. She should do the same too. If there is something about her or her way of life that you disagree with, ask her to forsake it for you and your love. You will agree to do the same. This can help to clear the air and lift tension, and you can move forward together happily.
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When a couple has been together for some time, the little habits, that used to just mildly irritate, can escalate into really big issues that can ruin a relationship. The problem is though, with habits, we barely notice ourselves doing these things and we don’t even realize that they are annoying. When you first fall in love, you don’t really care about some of these little annoying traits that your partner has, but after a few years they can really begin to grate. We’ve compiled a list of the top eight habits that can ruin a relationship, so check it out and see if you, or your partner, are guilty of any of these:
1. Checking up on your partner
You might think it’s completely innocent to casually check his phone or email, but everyone has a right to some privacy. If you need to check on his every movement during the day and know where he is all the time, then your lack of trust will eventually cause a problem in your relationship.
2. Keeping score
Forgive and forget should be the bywords of a relationship and if you are keeping a note of every single little mistake that he makes then this is going to get tiresome. Even things like who did the dishes last or who took the rubbish out really shouldn’t matter between a loving couple, and constant score keeping is only going to cause unnecessary tension.
3. Nit Picking
Are you someone for whom nothing is done right unless you do it yourself? If, every time he cleans the bathroom, you point out that he’s missed a bit or if he puts round the vacuum cleaner and you immediately do it again yourself, you are going to stop him even trying. Constant picking at everything he does will make him feel unwanted and not valued and he will give up and go out with his friends instead.
4. Criticising his family
You are putting yourself in a difficult position, if you are constantly criticising his family. Even he, himself, probably thinks, at times, that his family is annoying, but he’s allowed to say that, you are not. No one likes to hear others running down their own flesh and blood, and if you do it too often, you are going to make this a bigger issue, than it really is.
5. Raising awkward subjects at the wrong times
There are right times to discuss important issues and there are wrong times. Just because the time is right for you, doesn’t mean the time is right for him. Raising a thorny issue like finances or a problem with the kids, the second he walks through the door after work, is only going to stress him out even more. The other one to avoid is raising difficult topics right after lovemaking: ‘That was great; did you know we are overdrawn at the bank again?’ That’s not cool!
6. Arguing in public
Bite your tongue until you get home! You may well need to get something off your chest, but arguing in public, or worse, around his parents’ home, is really going to drive your partner mad. If you find yourselves regularly arguing in public, then this is something that needs to be changed – you need to talk about it in private.
7. Using the silent treatment
Never use the silent treatment to punish your partner; it will only cause even more resentment and bad feelings. Practicing the art of silence is never going to solve anything and, if you are both at it, someone has to give up eventually or you might as well not be together at all.
8. Ignoring your partner
No one likes to be ignored, it’s even worse than being shouted at. Ignoring a person is the same as saying to them that they are so unimportant to you that you can’t even be bothered to talk to him. If you are ignoring each other on a regular basis and barely even acknowledge each other’s existence, then you have a real problem on your hands that needs be resolved.
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A lot of the time, disagreements and conflicts in relationship can stem from things getting lost in translation. And this is especially true in relationships because men and women tend to speak very different languages. It’s been like that since the dawn of time.
And these misunderstandings can often cause unnecessary drama that can strain the romance in the relationship. And you never want that. Sure, over time, you’re going to get to know one another better and you will understand each other more accurately. But you have to give each other patience and understanding during the earliest parts of your relationship just so you have a shot at getting to know each other more.
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But if it’s just too frustrating for you, then don’t fret. That’s what this article is for. It can be pretty exhausting trying to figure out what your man is trying to tell you. But you don’t have to be stressed out anymore. Highlighted here are a few common things that your man might be saying to you along with the proper translation of what he really means to be telling you.
1. “Trust me, she’s just a friend.”
What he really means is that he finds it incredibly cute and adorable that you would feel threatened and jealous by another girl – but there’s no reason for it. If he really did have any special relations with her in the past, he probably wouldn’t even still be friends with her right now just because he’s already with you.
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2. “Okay, I was wrong and I’m sorry.”
A man is a stubborn creature. And even though he’s saying he’s wrong and that he’s sorry, a lot of the time, he’s just saying that to keep the peace. He is just probably so tired of fighting with you that he’s going to lie and say that he’s wrong even when he still thinks it’s right. Maybe the stresses of arguing are finally getting to him.
3. “My ex-girlfriend turned out to be really crazy.”
It might seem like he’s telling you this to make it as though he’s so much better off with you than he was with his ex. But what he’s really saying is that he hopes that you don’t turn out to be crazy too – and that if you are, please let him know right away so that he can get out early.
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4. “It’s not you, it’s me.”
It’s definitely you. This is the common phrase that guys use to ease the blow. He’s saying that the issue is with him and that he has some stuff to deal with. But what he really means is that he just doesn’t have the patience and the temperance to be dealing with you right now. He’s just phrasing it nicely.
5. “I think it would be a good idea for us to hang out some time.”
He’s interested in you but he doesn’t really want to commit to anything. He doesn’t want to scare you off by making everything seem so forward and serious. He wants to take a casual and low-pressure approach to getting to know you. And that’s always a good sign.
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6. “You and (name of another guy) seem to have a really special bond.”
He might be playing it off like he’s cool with it, but on the inside, he’s feeling really threatened. Guys can be very territorial especially when it comes to their women. And he’s sizing up his competition by asking about the other men in your life.
7. “I didn’t have such a good day today.”
He doesn’t want to come off as weak and so he won’t really tell you that he needs your love and affection. But he’s hinting at the fact that he’s feeling particularly vulnerable and he wishes that you could love him until his strength comes back – and maybe take some things off his plate.
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8. “I don’t want to talk about this right now.”
He might be tabling this discussion for a later date in your mind, but the truth is that he just doesn’t want to talk about it at all. When a man doesn’t want to talk about something, he will divert the conversation into something else. And he will make it seem like he is open to talking about it some other time even when he isnt’.
9. “I love how you look when you don’t wear makeup.”
Honest translation is that he’s tired of always being late to dinner parties and events just because it takes you so long to put on your makeup.
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10. “I didn’t receive your message/I just saw your message now!”
Of course he got your message. Unless he was trapped in a cave where there was no signal for the entire time that he wasn’t with you, he definitely got your message. He just must have made a mental note to reply to you later on and then eventually forgot to actually do it. It happens. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you though.
If you, the boyfriend or non-menstruating girlfriend, think you hate when your girl’s time of the month comes around, imagine how she must be feeling when Mother Nature strikes! Periods are unpleasant for both parties in a relationship, but there are ways you can ease her suffering and help her smile through the pain. Here’s how you can come to her rescue and be her hero (or heroine) when the red devil pays his monthly visit:
1. Make sure she’s stocked up on all the essentials
Check her medicine cabinet for pads or tampons, pain-relievers, calming teas, and, yes, even an emergency stash of chocolate. If she’s out of something, offer to run to the store and pick it up for her— she’ll appreciate that endlessly. And you can even snag a few extras such as heating pads, fuzzy socks, and pillows to enhance her comfort.
2. Offer to give her a massage
If your girl happens to suffer from intense cramps, massaging her lower back might help alleviate some of the tension in her muscles. Even just a standard shoulder massage could work wonders for taking her mind off of her aching abdomen.
3. Brew her a hot drink
Take a trip to the local café and order her a piping-hot chocolate mocha. Present her with her favorite sweet treat and she’ll be so pleasantly surprised that she will momentarily forget how awful she feels. Or if she doesn’t care for coffee, a warm mug of tea— chamomile for a calming effect or peppermint to relieve stomachaches— will be sure to do the trick.
4. Encourage her to exercise a bit
Most girls on their period are not too thrilled by the proposition of moving around on purpose but introduce the idea of light exercise to her as a way to take the edge off of her pain. Say you’d be willing to go with her as an incentive to get her up and about.
5. Remind her to wear light, breathable clothes
If she’s just bumming around her room, suggest that she doesn’t wear tight clothes that might worsen existing issues of bloating, cramping, and swollen, achy breasts. For a personal touch, you can offer her one of your sweatshirts or a pair of sweatpants to wear. Girls always love wearing their sweetheart’s clothes, so it’s a win-win!
6. Fix her a warm bath
Draw her a nice, warm bath (and even offer to join her…) so she can get clean as well as relieve some of the tightness in her muscles. She might need a little coaxing if she’s reluctant to leave her bed, but if you encourage her enough, she’ll be able to make herself feel better in no time.
7. Try not to get upset if she’s moody
If your girl happens to get irritable on her period, try not to take her words to heart if she’s being particularly curt with you that day. She most likely doesn’t mean to be so sharp with you – she’s just having a hard time keeping her emotions in check. Or if she’s weepy and sad, let her know that your arms and ears are always open for her if she needs some comfort.
8. Cuddle with her
Cuddles on a good day are lovely, but cuddles on a bad day are arguably even more satisfying. Gently snuggle up beside your girlfriend in bed or on the couch, sharing blankets and pillows together as you watch some mindless TV or her favorite movie. Kiss her on the forehead and on the cheek and play with her hair— bonus points if she’s so comfortable with you that she ends up falling asleep.
9. Don’t show her you’re grossed out
That means you, boys! A woman’s menstrual cycle shows that she’s alive and healthy and brimming with youth. And while you might be tempted to cringe when she mentions the size of the blood clot she found in her underwear that morning, try your hardest not to! Make a harmless joke out of it if you have to, but don’t tell her it’s disgusting when she can hardly help what’s happening to her.
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