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Happy married life is indeed possible for those who are ready to give what it demands. Marriage was instituted by God for the good of humanity, and it is designed to make life great, and complete. Here, I want to discuss few steps that keep happiness in marriage.


Forgiveness is one of the ingredients that can always keep the spices in marriage working. Many people find it difficult to say ‘I am sorry, forgive me’.¬† This requires understanding and living peaceably with one another, including your spouse. Don’t give room to the devil by allowing hatred in your relationship. Learn to forgive your spouse when he or she offends you, and ask for forgiveness when you offend your spouse. We must allow mercy to prevail, no matter the offence.

Some men find it difficult to say” I’m sorry, please forgive me,” because of their ego. Don’t let ego stand between you and a happy marriage. Inability to forgive and ask for forgiveness by either spouse is a reason for problems in many homes today.

Hebrews 12:14 advises that we ” follow peace with all men…”

Following peace with all men – inclusive of your spouse.


Financial matters can not be removed from a happy marriage. It is not the big volume of money in your marriage that gives you rest, but rest comes from being a good manager of money. As a man, it’s your responsibility to locate a job that can yield profit. Your spouse should know your source of income and how much you earn, so she doesn’t make unnecessary demands. Avoid selfishness; give to each other. Build trust in your spouse in financial matters. As a spouse always make sure you have a record of your expenses for the purpose of accountability. Spouses need to be accountable, both to God and to one another. Responsibility and accountability prevent financial trouble and division in the home.


Having a harmonious relationship with your in-laws contributes to making a happy home. It is your responsibility to build a peaceful relationship with them, treat them as you would treat your blood relations. Recognize that you have a responsibility, no matter how little. Take time to get to know your in-laws and show them the love of Christ. Learn to relate with them, because they all play a part in your spouse’s life, therefore accepting them is a seed of love that guarantee a positive harvest in your marriage.

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It had been said that;

– “Two career relationships work best when one partner is more advanced than the other.”

– “Two career relationships work best when one partner is less involve in his or her career.”

In the past more men were likely to agree with these statements, however, today there is convergence of attitude about two-career relationships. In today’s world men are less likely to agree with those statements than they would have done about 30 years ago, while women are more likely to agree with them.


Young men graduating today are more egalitarian in their views and young women less so, perhaps because the latter are more realistic. Today, men and women are more likely to share the same values about what it takes to make dual- career work, compare to the past. There is greater solidarity among working parents and therefore more flexibility about the roles that men and women can legitimately play in the society. There is now a greater sense of share responsibility.


Many young men have realized they have to do more at home than their fathers did. They are willing to take on the responsibilities at home.


A survey was Carried out to ask men and women to indicate how strongly they agree with the following statements:

– It is easier for men to combine the demands of work and family.

– Pursuing a demanding career will make it difficult for me to be an attentive spouse or parent.

From the survey, there was no difference between men and women in the way they answered those questions at that time, however, after some years, we find that woman are more likely than men to agree with those statements. While it used to be that women had aspirations for hierarchical advancement that were lower than those held by young men, today those aspirations are the same for men and women – working parents. Men and women today are more likely than the previous generation to share the same values about what it takes to make working parents relationships to work.

What is your views on this?

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April 5, 2018

To succeed in any Venture in life, we need preparation and planning. What you prepare for, you will execute adequately. The level of your preparation  determines your level of success. Every project, be it business, academic or ministry requires adequate preparation and planning.

The Bible says; “To build a tower, we must count the cost.”¬† There must be time for planning and preparation of every resource that is needed for the execution of the tower. No boxer ever challenge the reigning champion to a fight without adequate training. The time of training is the time of preparation and planning. Let us learn from King Jothan in the Bible.

“So Jothan became mighty, because he prepared his ways before the Lord his God.” (2 Chronicles 27:6)

King Jothan did what was right in the sight of the Lord. His father- King Uzziah is recorded to have done what was right in the sight of the Lord and as long as he sought the Lord, God made him to prosper. King Jothan copied the good character of his father, and he became mighty because he prepared his ways before the Lord. The purpose of athletic training is to prepare for the race. Believers are also on a spiritual race and there is need for constant preparation for the final race where Christ is waiting for us at the end of the race. Remember, the success in the life and ministry of our Lord Jesus Christ could be traced to his season of preparation and waiting on God. His 40 days of fasting and prayer was part of his preparations for a successful ministry. Christ Jesus knowing the values and essence of waiting on God in preparation for the ministry gave a clear instruction to the disciples to wait at the upper room for the purpose of spiritual endowment from God. He knew that success comes when preparation meets opportunity.

Adequate training and preparation must be made for every opportunity, when you are fully prepared you will be able to maximize your potentials. It is time to plan and prepare to succeed in your business or chosen career!

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April 5, 2018

Learning how to handle money is important. Most things in life start small. If we don’t learn something as a child, we are unlikely to learn it as an adult. Petty shoplifting can escalate into more serious things; not pointing out an error in our favor on a restaurant bill, using the office internet connection or phone line for non-business purposes, “borrowing” tools or supplies from our employer and forgetting to return them. Are these just minor matters?

How trustworthy are you?’ Jesus asks. He makes it clear that how we respond to larger responsibilities. People who can not handle money responsibly cannot be trusted to handle much more valuable things. Where does our heart lie? Jesus says that we cannot love God and money at the same level. (Luke 16:10-15)

Jesus Christ said to his disciples…

“Anyone who can be trusted in little matters can also be trusted in important matters. But anyone who is dishonest in little matters will be dishonest in important matters. If you cannot be trusted with this temporary wealth, who will trust you with true wealth? And if you cannot be trusted with what belongs to someone else, who will give you something that will be your own?

Truly, you cannot be the slave of two masters. You will like one more than the other or be more loyal to one than the other. You cannot serve God and money”

The Pharisees really love money, so when they heard what Jesus said, they made fun of him. But Jesus said to them, “You are always making yourselves look good, but God sees what is in your heart. The things that most people think are important are worthless as far as God is concerned.”

We have to learn to take care of the little things that matters, especially that which concerns and belongs to another person.



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