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How to Stay in Love Forever With Your Lover

Let’s face it, falling in love is something very exciting but staying in love can be painful at times.

You may not voice this out loud or even talk about it with your partner.

But at some point in every long relationship, all of us wonder about how to stay in love forever.

Even in the happiest of relationships, it’s natural to get interested in someone else or find someone else attractive.

It may seem surprising, but it’s against human instincts to stay in a monogamous relationship or not find someone else sexually appealing.

But then again, social norms and societal pressures bind us to stay in a committed relationship.

How to stay in love forever

To understand how to stay in love forever, we have to understand the basic requirements of a romantic relationship.

And we have to accept that sexual attraction and love are two completely different aspects that come together in a successful romantic relationship.

Staying in romantic love with your lover doesn’t just depend upon intense love or affection for your partner.

If staying in love was all about fondly liking someone or loving them unconditionally, there’s no difference in the love you’d experience for a friend, a sibling, a child or even a parent. In these cases, love is unconditional.

But romantic love needs intense love and sexual attraction to work successfully. And to make a relationship work, you need to keep the relationship alive and relive the excitement of the first few weeks of love every day for the rest of your lives.

Of course, it’s rather difficult to trick your mind into recreating those fleeting glances of first love and those passionate first kisses, but it’s definitely doable if you use these simple relationship changing steps on how to stay in love.

Ways to stay in love forever

To stay in love forever, learn to keep an open mind and always exchange thoughts with your partner to create new exciting memories that can last a lifetime. And never ever forget the two things that are required to stay in love, affection and sexual desire. Find out how to use affection and sexual desire to stay in love with each other using these tips.

Get a great body

Yes, this is shallow. And you need to face it, sexual desire is shallow too! If you want your partner to love you and desire you, you really can’t expect your partner to desire your Michelin tires, can you?

In several extensive surveys, it’s seen that over 60% of Americans are either overweight or obese. In the beginning of a relationship, you pay attention to your physique and try to look your fittest best. But as the years go by, you know you have a partner who won’t leave you anyway and you just stop taking care of your own body.

To feel good in a relationship or to sexually attract your partner, you really need to like what you see in the mirror every day. You can’t expect the affection and sexual interest to stay on if you can’t arouse your partner anymore. It’s brutal, but you can’t laze like a slob and expect your partner to genuinely think you’re sexy and find you desirable!

Dress up and look your best

Looking fit and getting a great physique is the first step to knowing how to stay in love, but that’s just not enough to arouse the sexual desire in long term relationships. You also have to understand how to look good when you’re walking down the street.

Sexual desire is an evolutionary trait, but knowing that there are a lot of other people who give you a second glance involuntarily makes your own partner desire you more.

Look your best, whether you’re at home or out with your partner at the movies or at a restaurant. Groom yourself and awe the people around you, and your partner will love you more, respect you more and definitely sexually desire you more than you’ll ever know!

Give each other space

As the relationship grows older, lovers start to spend time with each other a lot more than they would at the beginning. While spending every evening together is a great way to bond, it’s not good for the relationship.

If you really want to know how to stay in love forever, you need to learn to give each other space in the relationship to grow as individuals. Create your own hobbies and explore your own interests. Enjoy something that you love doing, be it playing video games or gardening, and grow your own passions. Keep your own lives interesting, and you’ll be able to have better and more interesting conversations with your partner.

Go out with your own friends

In a long term relationship, the lives of the partners are too closely entwined and one partner’s life becomes the other partner’s life. But for a successful romantic relationship, you have to remember that both of you are two individuals who love each other and desire each other, not two people who are attached at the hips. Every now and then, spend time with your own friends, have your own jokes and share your own gossip.

Understanding how to stay in love forever can be difficult to follow if all you look forward to is the monotony of a bored life together, right from the moment you wake up to the time you kiss each other good night.

In a successful relationship, both partners have to be excited to see each and share the events of their daily lives. If there’s no difference between one day and the next, your relationship can get pretty boring and distasteful.

Spend time with each other

To stay in love forever, it’s important to give each other space and grow your own life. But at the same time, both partners should spend enough time with each other to talk about each other’s day and spend quality time with each other, be it watching movies or just cuddling up and watching the evening soaps on the television.

Most couples assume they have to spend every minute possible with each other, but for a relationship to be successful, that’s just not true.

More than the time spent with each other, what really matters is the quality time either of you spend with each other. By creating your own lives, both of you would have a lot more to talk about with each other. At the same time, both of you would be excited to spend time with each other instead of just sitting next to each other and staring into space or reading a book. By avoiding all individual social activities, hobbies and social interactions and spending all the time with each other, you aren’t really improving your relationship. Instead, you’re just boring each other and preventing each other from growing into exciting individuals who can be more fun and interesting. Knowing how to stay in love forever is pretty simple, as long as you remember to stay as two individuals in love instead of one couple living together.

To keep a relationship exciting, it takes little steps to help each other become better individuals and grow each day, so that each of you can inspire your partner to become a better person.

After all, isn’t it more exciting to fall in love with a better person every day, rather than live with someone whom you fell in love with years ago? Use these tips on how to stay in love forever.

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Important Lessons That Everyone Needs to Learn About Finance.

The most important things about personal finance that someone without a finance background must know?

1. The Nature of “Risk”.

Risk is a bad word to most laymen. We are encouraged from an early age to avoid risk at all costs. We look to mitigate it in our lives as much as possible; buy insurance, avoid “risky” investments, jobs, etc. We try to avoid risk in our personal lives, too. We don’t ask the risky question, we don’t say the risky thing, we don’t speak up because of what might happen next…

What we in finance understand is that risk equals reward. You cannot gain something without the willingness to give something up.

There is a passage in the New Testament: “Whoever would save his life will lose it.” Whether you agree with the context of the passage is irrelevant, the wisdom is still there. If you hold so tightly to the status quo that you are not willing to see it change, then the status quo won’t change! You must be willing to lose the status quo to gain something better.

Try taking a risk in your career, in your investments, in your relationships. Of course, the definition of risk is that the outcome is uncertain. Each decision may or may not pay off. But, in the end, the person who lives a life of taking smart risks is the person you want to be.

2. Low Fees Does Not Equal Low Cost.

Over time, bad decisions, mistakes and poor planning can add up to a higher cost than simply paying to have it done right in the first place. This doesn’t mean spending extra money just to spend it, his point simply expresses the importance of paying for value.

3. The Only Personal Financial Advice I’ve Ever Gotten From Really Wealthy People.

One very big difference between the extremely wealthy and the rest of us is this: the world is malleable. With enough effort, time, capital—something—you can literally change the world.

This applies to your personal situation, too. It isn’t a given, it can be changed. You may need to be creative, or do tons of research, or put in lots of hours, but you can change your situation, dramatically.

Stop thinking of your situation as static. It is as big or little as you want it to be.

4. Money Is Not the Main Concern.

Interestingly, the biggest concerns of the wealthy have absolutely nothing to do with money. Money is just a magnifying glass: everything great about you gets bigger, everything bad about you gets bigger.

Bottom line: money comes and goes. Wealth is more than money. Cultivate your relationships, family, friends.

5. You Can Be President 

If

We are all taught in kindergarten that we could be president of the United States. You can be an astronaut if you want. You can be….

What they don’t teach you is that, yes, you could be anything you want to be if you are willing to make the sacrifices necessary to achieve it. The world doesn’t owe you anything. If you want something, you have to be willing to give up something. No one teaches that anymore.

6. How Markets Work.

We live in a golden age of investing. If you can dream it, you can do it. There is a tyranny in that choice. Furthermore, studies show over and over that individual investors are really bad at managing their money.

Gaining a basic understanding of what markets are and how they work can really go a long way in giving you a comfort level when you go to participate in them. It will also give you a healthy dose of cynicism.

Public markets were designed, first and foremost, to take money from the public. That doesn’t mean you can’t profit from them, it simply means that you must be very, very careful.

7. Cash is Not “Safe”.

I can’t tell you how many questions I’ve fielded from folks concerned about investing their cash. “Cash is safe,” I hear over and over again.

In one way, yes, cash is safe. What you need to understand, though, is that no matter what, you are taking a risk. Every year, your cash loses about 2.7%. That means your $100,000 in cash is going to be worth $99,775 next month, then $99,550 the month after that.

See the point? Yes, your cash is “safe” in that it is predictable. But don’t be fooled, it is losing value. Cash has a role, but that role is not to maintain your wealth.

8. You Need to Know the Truth About Gold.

Let’s be real about the role of gold in a portfolio. Yes, it can be part of an overall allocation. But, gold is not a replacement for a diversified portfolio.

The advertisers on CNBC are really good at making gold sound like the answer. Especially during times of crisis. “It’s the only real money!” I’ve heard it all.

But here is the hard truth about gold:

  1. Gold has lost value relative to inflation since 1981. Despite what gold proponents will tell you, gold is a terrible long-term hedge against inflation.
  2. Gold is three times more volatile than stocks. For investors fleeing the stock market because it is too volatile, gold is not the answer. It is a bigger roller coaster ride than the stock market!
  3. It’s all that matters in a failed economy. See my rant which follows: Here’s the deal. We can look at real examples of failed economies. Take New Orleans after Hurricane Katrina as an example. First of all, if you could get to your gold, I doubt you could have bought much with it. On the other hand, you could trade anything for a bottle of water or gallon of gasoline.

In the event of a zombie apocalypse, gold is not very useful. What matters in that environment? Guns. Water. Food.

9. Get Enough Sleep.

It’s true. Getting enough sleep will help you make clearer daily decisions (which add up to big consequences), and help maintain your willpower, which is vital to sticking to a plan, budget and maintaining an appetite for risk.

In fact Jimmy Wales (on Quora) has often advised others to get enough sleep.

Sleeping is worth the time. Do it.

10. If You Don’t Understand it, Don’t Do It.

This is simple, but true. You need to understand why you are doing something to do it properly.

This cuts both ways, though! There are many things in life that require you to wrestle with the knowledge in order to reap the rewards. In finance, knowledge really is power. The more you know and understand, the more you can leverage that knowledge into resources. Resources get things done.

Just because you don’t understand it, doesn’t mean it is scary or evil or terrible. It does mean that you shouldn’t do it until your learn it.

So learn all you can, then you can do more.

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Reasons You’re Single Even Though You’re A Catch

You’re awesome but you’re single. What are you doing wrong? Absolutely nothing. Here are 12 reasons you’re single even though you’re a catch.

1. YOU DON’T BELIEVE IN SETTLING.

You know what type of people settle? The ones who think they’re running out of time to find something real and those who think true love isn’t in the cards for them. However, that’s not the case for you. You know he’s out there and you’re not settling for anything less.

2. YOU’RE WAITING TO MEET SOMEONE WORTHY OF YOUR AWESOMENESS.

You’re amazing, so why would you even bother being with someone who doesn’t equal you in that? I mean, seriously. It’ll totally be worth the wait.

3. YOU DON’T NEED A MAN TO VALIDATE YOUR EXISTENCE.

You might think it’d be nice to have a partner in crime sometimes, but you certainly don’t spend all your time pining after a guy – and you don’t feel bad about it, either. Instead, you live your life and don’t let it revolve around finding someone.

4. YOU’RE TOO BUSY LIVING YOUR LIFE.You have trips to take, people to meet, projects to tackle, and you have a goal to go to 30 countries before you turn 30. Your schedule is pretty damn packed.

5. YOU’RE FOCUSED ON YOUR CAREER.

It may sound like some sort of copout or a cliché, but this is 2015. What woman isn’t focused on her career to some degree? You love what you do and you’re good at it. That’s worth being proud of, for sure.

6. YOU’VE GOT GREAT FRIENDS TO DISTRACT YOU FROM ROMANCE.

Once you get a boyfriend, the time you spend with your friends is immediately cut in half. Boyfriends are great and all, but friends are a whole other level of great.

7. GUYS AREN’T AS INTO COMMITMENT AS THEY ONCE WERE.

We live in a culture where hooking up seems to take precedence over serious relationships. While hooking up is fun and one-night stands are a blast, it’s hard to find commitment in a sea of men who just aren’t into it. In this particular case, your singleness is totally out of your control.

8. YOUR CONFIDENCE IS REALLY INTIMIDATING.

It’s true! Even the cockiest of men will second guess themselves before even daring to approach a woman of your caliber.

9. YOU NEED TO FOCUS ON YOU FIRST.

Before you can share your life with someone else, you first need to know who you are, what you want, and in what direction you’re headed. It’s not fair to offer only half of yourself to someone when you’re still not completely whole.

10. YOU DON’T REALLY HAVE TIME TO MEET PEOPLE.

You didn’t even have time to eat lunch today, let alone set up an online dating profile. In fact, you’re not even sure you have time to swipe more than once or twice on Tinder.

11. YOU’RE TOO IN LOVE WITH SINGLE LIFE.

When your life is perfect already, it’s hard to want to bring someone else into the mix. While you may want a boyfriend, there’s the fact that having one will change the life you’ve made for yourself. There’s nothing wrong with change, but it’s also something you need to do on your own time.

12. YOU’RE NOT READY.

So why push something you’re not 100% about it yet?

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Signs You’re Ready To Date Again After A Bad Breakup

Not sure if you’re ready to get out there and meet someone new? Here’s a few things you need to be able to say “yes” to before you’re ready to date again.

1. You want to date for the right reasons

Once you’re no longer looking for rebounds or trying to make your ex jealous, then you are quite ready. You’re not trying to fill a void left behind by the breakup. Instead, you’re dating because you’re ready to move on and meet new people.

2. You have done a logical introspection

If you’re still blaming your ex for everything that went wrong in your relationship, you’re not ready to date yet. Part of moving on is being able to own up to your own personal BS and mistakes – even if that mistake was dating your ex in the first place.

3. Your anger is gone

You’re perfectly entitled to feel angry as hell after a breakup. Allow yourself to feel all the feelings – even the ugly ones that make you want to throw stuff against the wall. You need to process all the crappy emotional stuff or you’re going to carry all these negative feelings into your next relationship.

4. You took your time

If you took your time and healed completely before deciding to have a go at love again, you are doing just right.

5. You are fine with being alone

Being single does not faze you, and being in a relationship  is just something that happened in the natural course.  It wasn’t forced, neither was it chased as a way if forgetting your anger and misery.

6. YOU’VE REACHED THE POINT WHERE YOU’RE NO LONGER CONSTANTLY TALKING OR THINKING ABOUT YOUR EX. This is a big one. It’s totally normal to think about your ex and want to talk about the break up after it happens. The healing process after a breakup isn’t complete until you’ve had a chance to air all of your grievances and vent until you’re blue in the face. No one wants to date the person who is still obsessed with their ex. Take time to process the breakup. When you’re ready to date again you’ll be able to leave your past relationship where it belongs: in the past.

7. YOU’VE DONE SOMETHING REALLY NICE FOR YOURSELF.  Your heart was broken, you deserve some self-love and to indulge a little. Whether that involves treating yourself to a massage, that tattoo you’ve been saving for or just taking some time out to chill,  you need to give this gift to yourself before you start dating again – if only to remind yourself that you’re 100% worth it.

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How to be an amazing partner to your pregnant wife.

Guys, here are 10 ways to be extra-sweet when your wife or girlfriend is pregnant with your child.

At some point of that sweet romantic journey with the love of your life, she’s going to get pregnant with your child, and you’d have to not just be there for her, you need to be spectacular at it.

Here are ways to be a fantastic boyfriend or husband in the course of your partner’s pregnancy.

1. Be there

This is what your babe needs most – you.

There is no better way to support your partner during pregnancy than to be there. And not only are you to be there for her physically, but emotionally as well.

Go with her to as many antenatal checkups as you can, and make sure you are there for the ultrasound scans.

2. Be strong for her

Really, growing a baby is exhausting and now that she’s pregnant there are many ways you can help her out and make life easier for her.

The best place to start is around the home. Take on a few extra chores so that your partner can get some much-needed sleep without the house falling into disarray.

Pregnancy takes its toll on her energy levels.

3. Be understanding

She might be feeling too nauseous to even touch the food she was craving so badly just an hour ago. She may also be too tired to go to that party, or too desperate for the bathroom to stop crying on the motorway.

As her hormones wreak havoc on her body and mind, you may find that she gets upset about inconsequential things. Give her a break. Pregnancy has its fair share of ups and downs, but you can make it much easier by cutting her a little slack.

4. Tell her she’s beautiful

Her body will go through changes. Stretch marks, swollen feet, weight gain, and all that stuff.

While she won’t be feeling much like her old self, it is your responsibility to always remind her that she’s gorgeous, especially when she really puts in effort to look so.

Compliment her on her bump, and make sure she knows just how much you love her.

It’s a major key.

5. Massages

She’ll be needing a lot of this in that period. Whether it’s foot rubs, lower back rubs or all over body massages she wants, now is the time to be not just a husband, but also an a-grade masseuse.

6. Pregnant sex

This is even medically advisable and you should absolutely do.

There’s a tact to it however, and you should pay attention to it as much as you want to be careful to not hurt her.

7. Prioritise her

Whether or not she’s preggers, you’d need this in your relationship with your special woman.

Now that she’s pregnant, however, it becomes triple important that your priority is her and the well-being of the baby in growing inside her… your baby.

There’ll be days of ridiculous cravings at awkward times, mood swings and whatnot. Be prepared to be there through all of that.

8. Be extra sensitive

During pregnancy, women’s senses are heightened so you have to be extra sensitive too.

9. Create some memories

Modern relationships are rife with pregnancy shoots and beautiful memories created before the unwrapping of the bundle of joy.

So when your babe says it’s time for the pregnancy shoot, don’t shoot down the idea and don’t make yourself scarce as well.

10. Look after her

In summation, just look after your woman, whatever her peculiar pregnancy routine is.

Different women go through pregnancy in different ways and you need to be willing and ready to help your babe through hers in a special way that’s tailor-suited for her personal 9-month journey.

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All the struggles of getting into a celibate relationship after leaving a sexual one

Here are 5 struggles you should expect when moving into a celibate relationship after a sexual one.

You may ask yourself why someone who was in sexual relationship would even agree to go into another one and decide to be celibate against his or her ‘real wish’.

The answer to that is that sometimes, people often make rash decisions that they’d later discover that they can’t go through with.

So don’t be surprised that there are people who would enter into clearly sexless relationships and then turn around and start demanding sex midway through the relationship.

Whether it was a well-thought decision or not, however, here are struggles you should expect when moving into a celibate relationship after a sexual one.

1. The switch is never easy

Theoretically, you could be prepared for the change from that previous relationship to a life of love without sex.

Afterall, what could be difficult in loving your partner with all your heart without laying  finger on them sexually? Nothing  right?

Well, it’s usually not that easy.

2. More masturbation

Whether you are a man or woman, you may find yourself trying to relieve that sexual tension by yourself. Having sex for a while and then trying to stop never really comes easy and self-pleasuring could be your way of getting off during that difficult period before you become completely weaned off sex.

For some people the masturbation never really stops.

3. Tempted to cheat

Also the temptation to cheat may be overpowering sometimes [or many times]. Afterall, your partner trusts you completely and would allow you go for a sleep over at your friend’s place.

What he/she doesn’t know is that you once had great sex with your friend’s neighbor who has since been begging for a rematch.

Now that you are horny and there’s no chance of getting it with your partner, the temptation is very strong to give in to one more night with him/her.

Afterall no one will tell your boyfriend, right?

4. Unknowingly pressuring your partner

You may find yourself putting pressure on your partner without even knowing it. Your make out sessions  have clearly been limited to kisses and a few touch here and there but you may find yourself testing, pushing all those limits everytime you make out with your partner.

If only your partner wasn’t just so firm with their stand on the no-sex policy, you know what would have happened

5. Don’t enter relationships you can’t cope with

It is important at all times to date at your level. Always be equally-yoked with your partner. You want sex, date someone who wants sex. Don’t squeeze yourself into a relationship and get stuck in uncomfortable situations.

Relationships are to be enjoyed, not endured.

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How To Live Like a King

Living like a King simply means the ability to be able to live in a very comfortable or luxurious way/manner of life.

It will be so interesting to live like a king, rule the world and have people come at you for favor.

Well, we might not get other people to bow to us, but we can certainly find a way to dress like a king, eat like one, and travel like one. Most kings have gorgeous clothes and a nice car; they eat at fancy restaurants; they travel in first class; and they always have crowns. Who’s to say we can’t experience a little of that?

Now, I know what you’re thinking: all of that might seem out of reach on a small income like yours, but I’m here to tell you it’s possible.

There are ways to live like a king (or at least close to it) on a very modest salary—the key is to understand how to get great deals without putting yourself into debt. If you do your research, exercise patience, and keep your spending in check, you’ll be feeling like royalty in no time. Here’s how to go about it:

How To Wear King’s Clothes:

If you were a real king, you’d wear extremely nice clothes from the top name brands. Designers would beg you to wear their creations, and you’d have someone to do all your shopping and clothes coordinating for you.

All that sounds a bit luxurious, but there’s no reason why you can’t experience a little bit of that royal treatment. While you might not be able to match the exact brands favored by royalty, you can certainly buy clothes of very nice quality at a lower cost.

One way to do this is to join membership shopping sites: membership websites like RueLaLa routinely have luxury brands anywhere from 20%-90% off of retail prices. Most of them also sell home goods, so you can make sure you’re living in the lap of luxury at home too. Also, don’t discount thrift stores, where you can scour thrift stores for both vintage and name-brand items that are worth a lot more than the small price tags seen at Goodwill—all it takes is a little bit of know-how and a willingness to look to find the best deals.

Also, don’t forget about websites like overstock that carry nice items for less and eBay, where you can bid on brand new or gently used clothing items. Just remember to set a budget to stick to it. Living like a king is great, but only if you don’t go into debt to do it. Bidding online can get to be a bit addicting. It always helps to remember that unless it’s an extremely rare item, someone will sell something similar to it in no time.

Fancy Restaurants:

A few years ago, some five star restaurants would simply be out of a “peasant’s” price range, but with the birth of coupons and secret shopper programs, you can easily try out some of the best restaurants in the world for far less than you could have ever imagined.

As a secret shopper, you can try out restaurants and eat for free as long as you rate their service and their meals. With companies like Groupon you can buy coupons to dozens of restaurants and get your meals approximately 50% off.

Drive A Fancy Car:

I can’t promise that you can afford a fancy car, but that doesn’t mean you can’t drive one. Have a fun day out with your friends. If you’re a guy, dress up in a suit with your nicest tie or bow tie. Be sure to have your shirt and pants pressed. (Wrinkly clothes don’t give off the best impression.) Ladies, definitely go for your nicest heels and a pretty dress. If it’s cold were you live, make sure to wear a nice peacoat or leather jacket, as opposed to a sweatshirt with your favorite team on it. I usually shop around at places like Marshalls or Ebay to get the best deals on clothing. The brands are not as important as how well they fit you and look on your shape. Once you’ve picked your you outfit and are dressed to impress, go out and test-drive some beauties.

Travel First Class:

There’s a whole movement of people called “churners” who use credit card points to fly free around the world. They also get free nights at some of the world’s best hotels and upgrades wherever they go. The best part is that most of these churners are normal people who just learned how be really smart about their credit cards.

In order to master this, you have to have good self-control and great credit. Then, you have to be able to do the research required to understand the risks of being a churner, which could involve negative hits to your credit due to the amount of credit cards they apply for. Many churners apply for several credit cards all in the same day to avoid too many inquires on their credit. They also plan it out, so that they can reapply for other cards every 3 months. In order to receive these points you will have to spend anywhere from $1,000-$10,000 in a specified amount of time, so you’ll need to do your research and find out if your expenses actually merit getting a specific card. Spending needlessly just to get points defeats the purpose of getting free flights, so always stay within your means.

There are many resources online where you can go to find out how to travel in style. Join a forum online or read blogs written by churners to get insider tips on how the experts do it best. Some of our favorites are Milepoint.com and Flyertalk.com

Having A Crown:

Well, this last one might not be as easy as the previous items for us to attain. However, if you are smart with your money, utilize sales, shop around, clip coupons, and scour thrift stores, you can definitely save up for a crown in no time.

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The Journey to Greatness Is Never Too Late To Start!

The act of thinking big is a very good one but what is the essence of thinking big without taking actions to becoming great?

Many people go through their whole life saying that I didn’t have a good start to my life so that is why I shall remain where I am. The mistake that many people make is that they don’t seem to be aware that the beginning of their life does not determine their end. People say I did not do good before so that is why I am not doing much with my life, so what does that mean, you have just given up halfway into your life, it does not matter what you didn’t do yesterday, you have the power to change your life right at this moment, you can start right now to take your life in a whole new direction.

It is never too late to start on a new journey and take your life to the heights of greatness, the choice is yours how you want to live your life. The limited life is the one which most people choose to confine themselves to because that is the easy path, and most people are just lazy and lack ambition. Is that you? are you just going to cower away and let your life not amount to much as the masses do?. What is so hard in living an average life, a life filled with no adventure and exploration into the unknown, cowards die a thousand deaths, but the courageous die only once. Step it up right now, this day is the day that you demand more from yourself and say I will take my life to new heights, I am determined to create the life of my dreams and I am the one who shall make it happen.

Believe in yourself and take action today, too many people stop living after a certain age, they just live life like a robot doing the same things days after day, not doing much with their days but living to pay their bills. What a timid existence that is, what a waste of one’s potential it is to resign yourself to mediocrity.

It does not matter how old you may be, you can start to create a better life for yourself, acquire the right knowledge and take the right action steps so that you can achieve your goals that you have set out for yourself. It seems as though the majority of people do not have any goals for their life and that is why they are just floating around aimlessly in life, if you do not know in which direction you want to go then any direction will suffice. Is that how you are living? take a good look at your life, where are your heading? what are you doing with your days? what are your daily habits resulting in? are you heading towards success or failure? and are you heading towards average or greatness?

It does not matter about the life you have lived so far, you have everything within you to live life to your highest ideal, there is this misconception that successful people have something special about them, and that is why they succeed, but that is not the case, successful people set goals, they make plans, they invest in themselves, they put self-education over entertainment and they take daily consistent action. That is what separates the successful from the unsuccessful, the relentless pursuit to be the best that they can be.

You are more than you appear to be, you can grow and develop yourself with the acquisition of the right knowledge and action, and your mind will awaken and come to the realisation that you have what it takes to become successful. The beginning stages of awakening require that you have faith in the journey and yourself, set big goals, you will grow into them, take giant steps of actions and make success your responsibility, if you do not you will be confined to the life of the majority who live the slave life, trapped in someone else’s dream because they never had the courage to get started on their own dreams, is that how you want your life to be?

5 Steps to Begin Your Path to Greatness

Do you look at your life and know there is something greater for you? Do you have ideas on what that may be, but can’t quite seem to put them in motion or make them happen?

Feeling stuck is quite common. Many times, we have thoughts and dreams of what we want in life but they never happen because sadly, they only stay as thoughts and dreams inside of us, and our mindset holds us back from going forward.

The good news is, at any moment in time, we have the ability to start taking action toward creating the life we want.

Here are five steps to get started:

1. Celebrate Your Success
Before you begin working toward your goals and more greatness in life, be sure to acknowledge all you’ve accomplished already. Write down all the successes you’ve already achieved and all the awesomeness that you are today. This practice will direct your thinking to a positive place. And once you’re in that positive groove with your thoughts, it will lead you to make better choices and take better actions toward your greatness.

2. Create Your True Vision
Many times we live based on others’ expectations or we stay stuck in a particular place because it’s our safety zone. For instance, like in a career we’ve been in because we’re climbing the ladder and feel like we’re too far ahead to make a change – or in a dead-end relationship that isn’t going anywhere but you’d rather stay in it and be miserable than start over again. Own your path. It can be hard to do, but allow yourself to get out of your head (or stop listening to what others’ want for you) and focus on your heart and what it’s telling you. Look within yourself deeply, and decide what you want and what’s true for YOU.

3. Take Action 
There’s no better time to creating the life you want than right this very moment! Timing is never perfect, and to get started, you just need to put one foot in front of the other. Baby steps are key! Be realistic about your goals. If you want to start going to the gym, going from 0 days a week to 5 days a week right away is extreme, and setting yourself up by biting more than you can chew typically doesn’t result in success, but failure. Instead, start slow and go once or twice a week. After you do that for a while and get into a nice groove, up it to more days. Over time, you will build toward your goal by taking realistic, smaller steps to get there.

4. Stay Persistent
Even if you’re working hard towards your goal and there seem to be bumps in the road – don’t give up. These bumps help you grow and make you stronger each and every time you get past them. So if you’re trying to eat better, and you have a day where you aren’t sticking to plan, don’t throw everything out the window and give up. Be kind to yourself and accept that moment, and then focus back to your vision and keep moving forward. Little by little, those moments of persistence will guide you to creating more greatness in your life.

5. Have the Right Support 
Don’t do it alone. Enlist in the right support to hold you accountable and cheer you on in the process. It could be a friend, a family member, or significant other who you trust and who have the results you want. Or, a 3rd party like a mentor or coach can give you an outsider perspective. Whoever it may be, having someone you can confide in and have as a sounding board on your journey will be just what you need to keep you on track and celebrate with you as you work toward the life you dream of.

Enjoy your journey to greatness!

 

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The Differences Between Love and Lust

Firstly we want to look into what love is all about.

Love is involuntary.  Brain science tells us it’s a drive like thirst.  It’s a craving for a specific person. It’s normal, natural to “lose control” in the early stage of romance.  Love, like thirst, will make you do strange things,  But knowledge is power.  It’s a natural addiction and treating it like an addiction can help you. We were built to fall in love and if I may ask: Are YOU in love?

The ancient Greeks called love “the madness of the gods.”  Modern psychologists define it as it the strong desire for emotional union with another person.  But what, actually, is love.  It means so many different things to different people. Songwriters have described it, “Whenever you’re near, I hear a symphony.” Shakespeare said, “Love is blind and lovers cannot see.”  Aristotle said, “Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.”

THE OVERALL HYPOTHESIS

But we think that romance is one of three basic brain systems that evolved for mating and reproduction:

The sex drive or lust—the craving for sexual gratification–evolved to enable you to seek a range of potential mating partners.   After all, you can have sex with someone you aren’t in love with.  You can even feel the sex drive when you are driving in your car, reading a magazine or watching a movie.  Lust is not necessarily focused on a particular individual.

Romantic love, or attraction—the obsessive thinking about and craving for a particular person–evolved to enable you to focus your mating energy on just one individual at a time.  As Kabir, the Indian poet put it:  “The lane of love is narrow; there is room for only one.”

Attachmentthe feeling of deep union with a long-term partner–evolved to enable you to remain with a mate at least long enough to rear a single child through infancy together as a team—although many of us remain together much longer, and enjoy the benefits of life with a partner even when there is no goal to have children.

These three brain systems–and feelings–interact in many ways to create our myriad forms of loving.

We began our studies with attraction.  Whether it’s called romantic love, obsessive love, passionate love, or infatuation, men and women of every era and every culture have been affected by this irresistible power.

The intensity of romantic love tends to last somewhere from six months to two years before turning into attachment in most relationships.  Romance is where love begins, and it seems to have the most extreme effect on human behavior.

Behavioral traits of early stage romantic love:

  • Special meaning: the romantic partner is the center of the world, and you like anything they like
  • Intense energy and it’s hard to sleep
  • Loss of appetite
  • Mood swings
  • Separation anxiety
  • Craving
  • Intense motivation for emotional union
  • Possessive
  • Intrusive thinking

Having looked at what love is; We want to look at what lust is all about.

Lust is a craving, it can take any form such as the lust for sexuality, lust for money or the lust for power. It can take such mundane forms as the lust for food as distinct from the need for food.

Lust holds a critical position in the philosophical underpinnings of Buddhist reality. It is named in the second of the Four Noble Truths, which are that

  1. Suffering (dukkha) is inherent in all life.
  2. Suffering is caused by lust.
  3. There is a natural way to eliminate all suffering from one’s life.
  4. The Noble Eightfold Path is that way.

Lust is the, attachment to, identification with, and passionate desire for certain things in existence, all of which relate to the form, sensation, perception, mentality, and consciousness that certain combinations of these things engender within us. Lust is thus the ultimate cause of general imperfection and the most immediate rootcause of a certain suffering.

The passionate desire for either non-existence or for freedom from lust is a common misunderstanding. For example, the headlong pursuit of lust (or other “deadly sin“) in order to fulfill a desire for death is followed by a reincarnation accompanied by a self-fulfilling karma, resulting in an endless wheel of life, until the right way to live, the right worldview, is somehow discovered and practiced. Beholding an endless knot puts one, symbolically, in the position of the one with the right worldview, representing that person who attains freedom from lust.

In existence are four kinds of things that engender the clinging: rituals, worldviews, pleasures, and the self. The way to eliminate lust is to learn of its unintended effects and to pursue righteousness as concerns a worldview, intention, speech, behavior, livelihood, effort, mindfulness, and concentration, in the place where lust formerly sat.

Signs To Differentiate Lust And Not Love.

If you’re currently dating someone but just can’t figure out whether you’re actually compatible or if it’s just butt loads of sexual chemistry, it can be a bloody confusing time. Matchmaker and heartbreak coach Sarah Louise Ryan explains there are six very obvious signs that’s it’s lust and not love. Here’s how to tell it’s not the real deal and save yourself a whole world of wasted time.

1. You want to know everything and all at once

If the person you’re seeing is really meant to be your next significant other – then what’s the rush? After all, all good things come to those who wait. If it’s lust, you’ll try to be all in – and fast – because you won’t be able to wait to get your next fix of those neurotransmitters dopamine and serotonin (they’re what make you feel really good). If it’s love, then you’ll be far more interested in a slow-burning romance rather than blowing off some steam together.

2. You struggle to find commonality

The chemistry may seem to be bang on and will feel like friction, like it’s electric and you just can’t get enough of being in the throws of passion or talking about it. You’ll be addicted to the highs and focus any convo outside of the bedroom on how great your sex is. Yet you can’t find any other commonality, so the conversation just leads down the path to talking about your physical passion (and not much else).

3. You’ve got different outlooks on the world, but you think that’s ok

You like this person – they’re attractive, you feel comfortable in their company, and you want to hang out all the time. But the fact you both have different outlooks on the world and your lifestyles aren’t quite the same doesn’t matter, right? Nope, not a chance. For example, one of you might prefer a winter getaway to a stint in the sunshine, or maybe you both support different football teams – this is fine. What I’m talking about is getting down to the nitty-gritty of values, family orientation, your goals, ambitions, health, fitness and inevitably what you both do to make the world a better place. If you find that there isn’t any alignment and you’re not on the same page about a lot of things, then quite frankly, you’re looking at a whole lot of lust and not much else.

4. It’s not a seamless connection, but it’s exciting

Sometimes ‘getting’ each other feels a tad like swimming against a micro tide but you’re ok with that. The chemistry is there so you think that the compatibility might come in time. Well, it won’t. When you connect with someone that’s right for you, you’ll go through the stages of falling in love which of course include lust. But you will want more as you become attracted to their personality and want to attach to them and only them. Make sure you’re falling hook, line and sinker – not just sinking in lust.

5. You don’t communicate the same way

If you both seem to be constantly seeking the attention of the other, not feeling satisfied or safe in the knowledge that this is it, that it’s something set to last then it’s just lust. If it feels like clutching at straws for one or both of you, then you’re not in it to win it for love. Perhaps you find yourself feeling unsure where this is going, how the other person feels or what on earth is going on? The right person for you wants you to feel at ease because they want to feel at ease too.

6. Everything else falls by the wayside

If you’re attracted to someone and feel completely comfortable with dropping everything of significance around you, then I’m afraid to say that it’s lust and not set to be love. Things of significance can be anything from friends and family, to your hobbies, interests and work. Love comes from compatibility, and that’s based on a deep understanding between the two of you of what’s important, what keeps you ticking and the knowledge that you’re both in for a marathon, not a sex-induced sprint.

It’s tough in the early days to see what on earth is what between chemistry and compatibility, and what it is exactly that sets lust aside from love. As long as you trust your gut, stay true to your values and really know what you want in a relationship, you’ll find that only the people on the same page as you will stick around. In short, lust is for right now, and we all know that when it comes to love everything should just feel right.

 

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Principles to Successful Marriage and Happy Home.

Successful couples are practical, knowledgeable and full of abilities. They read books, attend seminars, browse Web articles and observe other successful couples. However, successful couples will tell you that they also learn by experience.

The following are the principles to successful Marriage:

  1. Happiness is not the most important thing: Everyone wants to be happy, but happiness will come and go. Successful couples learn to intentionally do things that will bring happiness back when life pulls it away.
  2. Couples discover the value in just showing up: When things get tough and couples don’t know what to do, they need to hang in there and be there for their spouse. Time has a way of helping couples work things out by providing opportunities to reduce stress and overcome challenges.
  3. If you do what you always do, you will get same result: Wise couples have learned that you have to approach problems differently to get different results. Often, minor changes in approach, attitude and actions make the biggest difference in marriage.
  4. Your attitude does matter: Changing behavior is important, but so is changing attitudes. Bad attitudes often drive bad feelings and actions.
  5. Change your mind, Change your marriage: How couples think and what they believe about their spouse affects how they perceive the other. What they expect and how they treat their spouse matters greatly.
  6. The grass is greenest where you water it: Successful couples have learned to resist the grass is greener myth — i.e., someone else will make me happy. They have learned to put their energy into making themselves and their marriage better.
  7. You can change your marriage by changing yourself: Veteran couples have learned that trying to change their spouse is like trying to push a rope — almost impossible. Often, the only person we can change in our marriage is ourselves.
  8. Love is a verb not just a feeling: Everyday life wears away the “feel good side of marriage.” Feelings, like happiness, will fluctuate. But, real love is based on a couple’s vows of commitment: “For better or for worse” — when it feels good and when it doesn’t.
  9. Marriage is often about fighting the battle between your ears: Successful couples have learned to resist holding grudges and bringing up the past. They remember that they married an imperfect person — and so did their spouse.
  10. A crisis doesn’t mean the marriage is over: Crises are like storms: loud, scary and dangerous. But to get through a storm you have to keep driving. A crisis can be a new beginning. It’s out of pain that great people and marriages are produced.
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