In the journey of life we meet so many people who are very nice to us, who help us, like us, love us. We have lovely memories with these people.
But life is not always nice and people are not always good to us. Sometimes some people become the reason of our troubles. They become the reason of our physical or mental pain. May be someone had an intention to harm us and may be they became the reason of our hurt unintentionally.
Now the matter is that we are hurt and we are finding someone responsible for our pain.
In this condition generally we have an urge of retribution. We want revenge; we want to hurt back the person in some manner.
What happens when we have an urge of retribution?
This emotion has an extreme effect on our brain. As we all know, it’s our brain which controls the whole functioning of body. Revenge is a negative emotion and every negative emotion affect our immune system, our mood and thought process. So when we have a strong urge to take revenge from the person who hurt us, the first thing happens to us is our brain gets haunted with the thoughts of retribution. The incidence which caused us to get hurt, the person who intentionally or unintentionally became the reason of our pain, the plans to work for revenge, all these thoughts occupy the mind and create a negative vibration in heart ,brain and body.
Because of this negative vibration the person who wants revenge proceed a negative appearance and mood.
When we are stressed our body releases Adrenaline and Cortisol hormones. Being continuously stressed for the revenge keeps our body releasing these hormones and at one point it disrupt all our body functioning. Many health’s problems starts because of this process like depression, anxiety, heart disease, digestive problems.
So at the end that gets more hurt is most probably the person who tried to take revenge.
Here what I am talking about is the matter of forgiveness .I am not trying to say that we should allow others to do whatever they want to do with us.
The matter is if the hurt was intentional or the loss was major like loss of a life, loss of dignity or something serious then the revenge can be justified but if the hurt was miner or unintentional then we should choose to forgive.
Forgiveness has power to heal our wounds. Forgiveness has positive vibrations, it makes life easy, it helps us to forget the pain and move forward in life with new hope and plans. Forgiveness is positive. Forgiveness is healthy.
To forgive we need to be positive, confident, to have a big heart .