April is My Mother’s Birth Month; I Miss Her

April is the birth month of my mother, and I missed her so much. She was gone, six years ago!

My mother was a very ideal woman, very loving and very industrious. She had raised us so well, though we were poor that time. She helped my father earned a living; at the same time,inculcated in us good virtues like love of work, being honest, loving and caring for those in need, and fear of God.

Very Religious Woman

I remembered during that time everyday after dinner, she will tell all of us to gather in front of our small altar at home, and we prayed the Holy Rosary. It was not merely praying, all of us were told to kneel with utmost respect, as we say the prayers.

After the Rosary, we will put the right hand of our father, and then our mother, in our foreheads as if we were asking for their blessings.

Every Sunday, she and my father always go to church to attend the Sunday Mass. Sometimes we were told to come along.

There were so many virtues that our mother showed and taught us. One is living simply within our means. I remembered she did not have to ask our richer relatives to help us, even from her mother, my grandmother, who was at that time have money from our grandfather’s pension as a World War II veteran.

My mother did not ask her mother to give her or to give her some inheritance like a piece of lot where we could had built a house. It was good my father was given a piece of land by his father (my grandfather).

Before she died, my mother lamented that her mother did not give her an inheritance, but it was given only to one of my uncles. But she did not raised that issue to my grandmother until she (grandmother) died.

A Very Industrious Woman

My mother was a very industrious woman. She wakes up at dawn to cook for us as we prepared to go to school. She would always made sure that our school clothes or uniforms were clean and well ironed. She was very neat woman. She did not waste time chatting or gossiping with neighbors. But she was very friendly, even to beggars who passed by our home to ask for food or alms.

Though we were also poor, she always have a caring attitude to other people who are poorer than us. She would give them spare food, sometimes used clothing to help them. Maybe that was her way of thanking God for the blessings for our family.

She Enjoyed Doing Crafts

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I remembered my mother who do a lot of crafts during her spare time usually in the afternoon. She would do a lot of embroidery, so almost all of our pillows and blankets have embroidered flowers, usually a gumamela flower, like the avatar I am using for my writing sites now. At times, it would be a flock of ducks, some grasses, along with the flowers. She did all these even without a pattern, she embroidered straight without drawing the outline first.

Before she died, she gave me some of the pillowcases with ducks embroidered on it, and I was thinking of having it framed because it is something very valuable for me. Maybe I will just cut the embroidered portion and have it framed.

Now I realised maybe I inherited that genes, the love for crafting from her. This could be the reason I love to knit or to crochet. For me it is a work of art, just like my mother, whom I considered to be a good artist too. Her canvas was the clothes she embroidered on. She also loved to sew and darn clothes using our manual sewing machine.

At times she would recycle pieces of cloth and have it sewn together in a plastic sack or used sack to make a simple rug. It was so beautiful and colorful because she loved to use happy colors for her works. Her embroidered flowers were usually red, and green for the leaves.

I remembered, I had a big black umbrella which I was using in going to school, especially during rainy days, and she embroidered one panel of it with a red gumamela flower (hibiscus flower). It was bad, we have no camera that time, unlike today, so if I should had the photo of that embroidered umbrella!

Passing on the Good Virtues

These days, when I remember my mother, I always tell my children and my relatives about the nice virtues of my mother. It is through telling them her nice deeds that I want them to follow the good deeds she had done; her good principle in life of living honestly and living within her means.

It is a good virtue; the love of work, and nurturing one’s potentials, using time wisely like doing crafts during spare time. And the most important of it, is the love of God and caring for those in need.

Parents as Good Models

I am proud to say that my father and mother had been good role models for us, their children. Though they were poor, they urged all of us to finish our studies to have a better future ahead of us. We enrolled in public schools, and in college, many of us had scholarships from the government.

Children today are more fortunate. They do not have to walk to school, whether it is raining or the sun is shining hot. Our parents told us that education is the only inheritance they could give us. (Though they gave small lots to have our respected houses built).

And the most important inheritance they gave us were the good deeds, the good example they had shown us. They had no enemies, but so many friends. Until now, when we meet some of their acquaintances during that time, they had nothing but beautiful memories they had about my parents.

I am so happy to hear such good words about my mother, and also about my father, who were good role models when they were still alive.




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    • Same here! April 20 is my mom's birthday. And just like you, my parents have been a good role model to us their siblings.

      Thanks for the article.

      • Thanks Ruby. We children just wanted to show gratitude for the values they had inculcated in us. And we writers/bloggers are fortunate enough to tell the world how great our respective parents were.

        Are your parents still alive? You are fortunate enough to have them around.

      • So nice to know about it. It is their lasting legacy for their children. Congrats to you for having such nice parents.

    • Feel how much your mother and father have inspired and inculcated so many good deeds in you. I find that generally people who are in difficulty and struggling to run their lives and those of their children are the ones who children are able to imbibe such habits. Your remembering your mother shows how much she cared for the whole family too. She had a natural talent for crafts and arts which seems to have come to you to and certain impressions of childhood seem to be well etched in your mind.

      The best tribute for your mother seems to be people remembering her with a smile. Nowadays it is better if one has not friends but never has any one complaining or speaking ill of them. That is a great achievement which your mother seems to have achieved with the kind of life she lived and the dedication with which she has served the family and made it into a fit unit. Thanks for the share.

      • Thank you Krishna Kumar for your comments. I found this article as a way of giving tribute to my parents, particularly to my mother who did all her best during her lifetime to make our family well, and to impart to us her good traits. She did not show taught us in words, or through lip service alone, but through her deeds.
        I could not forget her sacrifices when we were still young; and yes, I love her way of making crafts like embroidery. I wish parents today would also be good models for their children, so they can raise good people in the community.

    • You got a very hardworking and I should say a dignified mother.

      She served all of you so well, even waking up early to cook and prepare for all of you before going to school.

      I think you have inherited the love for crafts such as crocheting of your mother. Really, she embroidered the pillow cases? Yes, you can cut the embroidered portion and have them framed as a remembrance from her.

      Lucky for us for having mothers who are caring and loving.

      • Thanks Dina. I always think that our mothers really considered their children as gems; their wealth. It is sad to compare them with some mothers today, who never instill discipline among their children. Maybe I really inherited her love for crafting. I enjoyed it so much, though sometimes my husband says, I better buy one instead of using so much time and effort doing those things.

    • You had a wonderful mother and she will always be in your memory. My mom is the best woman I ever knew, but maybe so can say every child about his mom. Fortunately she is still alive, but I have lost my dad six years ago.

      • Thanks Fortune. You are really fortunate to still have your mother arund. You can always have someone to lean on, to talk with when you are down or when you are happy. I envy people who still have their mothers with them!

    • My mother died when I was 6 years old, I never had remembered how she cuddled me, that is why I wrote her a blog about a must to love our mother. Lucky are those whose mother are still alive.Without them would never experience the joys and pains of life. I always miss my mother and father.

      • Oh, it's so sad to know about this. It is so different when mother is around; though your father is there, I don't know, mothers have that different way of expressing love to their children. Anyway, maybe your father, your aunts or relatives can tell you so much about your mother when she was still around.

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